A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I think I may have my own answers here but I'm curious as to what others think...especially a male perspective!Im quasi-dating a guy and have been seeing him about once a week for the last month. But the interest has waned I feel. he use to really want to talk to me. Now he doesnt reach out so much. Our last date was really nice and he was such a gentleman. I stayed over but we did not have sex. He did give me a tooth brush though ;)The next morning he didnt act excited to make plans to see me again. Didnt call for days. I finally reached out to him and he was like, youre wonderful etc...things are crazy right now. But nothing else as far as what our future is. He called Monday and we talked a bit. I asked him to a party Wed but he declined graciously saying work was crazy.I texted him yesterday and again he was nice but not in a hurry to make any plans.I think the ball is in his court now. Im not going to pursue more plans. But I feel like the messages are mixed and confusing. I half wonder if he's just keeeping me around IN CASE he needs me later.
View related questions:
text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2012): And now he's texting me a bunch saying sweet things. What gives?
But no plans still
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): I have not slept with this man. And he was very respectful of this BOTH times I slept over. I told him I didnt want to get too attached.
He also commented this week about my pet...saying that he couldnt call him by the name i gave him so I said I would let him call him something else and he made up a new name.\
Yeah I know it sound silly.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): I think he isn't interested in you anymore so just forget him and date others. Good luck.
...............................
A
male
reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 March 2012):
 The truth about "quasi-dating" is that they are not really dating you. Maybe he feels he has no obligation towards you and his interest may have waned.
If you're fine with quasi-dating, then this is fine, too.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): May be he is keeping you around, may be he isn't.what is obvious is his aloofness.
I really missed this:you aren't having sex, or it was just that one time you didn't?
I wouldn't contact him anymore and see what happens.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): Do you normally have sex if you stop over or was that the first time you stayed?
I think he's backing off, from what you have said.Don't contact him now leave it up to him.Dont get attached. Just carry on as per with your life, date others if asked, see what develops.
...............................
|
