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writes:Met a girl in class and I liked her (as a friend). Someone I thought I could get a long with as I enjoyed talking to her. She came across as strong, loud and opinionated but not over the top, I liked this. She has a bf and I have a gf so I figured no dramas.I added her on facebook as I added a few people from class. She ended up changing schools and I tagged her in a few things that I knew she was interested in such as free tickets a sports game and she replied to the tag that she had them already.Next time I look she has unfriended me. I dont think I was over the top or overly strong with anything.I am confused. Is there things I am doing wrong or signs I can look out for?
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (21 November 2018):
 Are you sure you liked her just as a friend and nothing more? Because that's an awful lot of thinking for just a friend, or in your case, an acquaintance. I think she got the feeling as well and didn't want any drama. Or as the other aunts have pointed out, maybe her boyfriend didn't like you speaking to her.
As always however, Facebook causes more drama than serves any real purpose.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 November 2018):
 Could be many reasons. The fact that you were "just" a guy she talked to and now doesn't as she has moved away from the area, so she didn't see the point in keeping you as a "friend".
Some people keep their "FACEBOOK friends" to a bare minimum and to people they ACTUALLY interact with in person. Others have tons of strangers.
Or her BF didn't like the idea of her chatting with other guys on Facebook.
I don't think you did anything wrong at all, she just made the choice to not keep as a "friend" on Facebook. It's not a big deal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2018): It could simply be she deleted a few people as wanted to keep people she knew really well. People can unfriend for many reasons, she barley knew you, she decided to keep close family and friends, she wanted more privacy and to make her circle smaller.
No point over thinking, she has and if you ask you will come across as being weird doing so.
Leave it and move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2018): Her boyfriend may have felt you're too friendly; or she only cared to communicate with you as classmates. The connection meant more to you than it did to her. The affiliation extended no further than that.
If you have a girlfriend; it shouldn't matter to you that much.
Shrug it off!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 November 2018):
 So people are fine with the concept of men and women being friends. Most aren't. She interpreted your offer as a date. Maybe it would have been acceptable if all four of you did a double date. It's possible that his boyfriend saw the facebook posts and became alarmed that she had to unfriend you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2018): It doesn't sound as if you did anything wrong. Maybe her boyfriend got a little jealous and asked her to unfriend you. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just let it go.
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