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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey I’m really confused. I regularly go to my local spa. I enjoyed relaxing and speaking to women there. However the other day a guy was next to me in the jacuzzi, and under the bubbles I felt his hand. He was similar age to me around 25-26. I thought it was a mistake, I ignored it. Had it of been a female hand I would of been on full alert, but as a guy I did not care, until he did it again. I felt this weird feeling I hadn’t been touched by a guy before, I never thought I would like it. In return I just smiled and he put his hand on my privates and just felt it and let go. My blood was rushing through, and I remember feeling good. I had the urge to feel his private too, they felt big and it really turned me on. I felt really turned on and I wanted to touch him more. But he has to go, he slapped my backside and left. Why do I wish I could do that again? Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2018): Wow, what a sleaze bucket this guy is! Being that presumptuous and doing something that overtly sexual and inappropriate in a public place of business!!Be careful young man, you could get arrested for lewd conduct in public! Keep it behind closed doors!I'm not sure if you're bi, you may have just liked the mystery, the naughtiness, the element of danger and surprise? The story line? Those elements may not be who you really are and are detached from reality. A form of escapism.Is your life a little bland right now? In a dry spell?Maybe this little fantasy is awakening your desire to be in a relationship again? Assuming you aren't already in one?Time will tell if these thoughts persist. You will know.But I wouldn't be doing stuff like this in public anymore. I get the danger/fantasy element but jail time isn't the way the fantasy is supposed to end.
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reader, Phil052 +, writes (7 February 2018):
 You're young and exploring your sexuality, and you liked the encounter you had with this man. That's fine, we are all complex sexual creatures! Just take time to decide what you like, it may well be that you like both men and women sexually!
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (6 February 2018):
You are what you are... Almost nobody is 100% straight or gay. Maybe you can explore to find it what you like, but labels don't do you any good.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2018): If you get the same feeling when you’re with a girl then I’d say your bi. But it doesn’t matter what labels you put on what you are. As long as you’re happy you can do whatever you feel comfortable/happy with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2018): Have you had sexual relationships with women and did you enjoy it? If your answer is yes then maybe you're bisexual. If you didn't enjoy it so much you may be gay.
I understand your confusion, but you shouldn't be ashamed of your feelings. If you're honest with yourself, and it sounds as if you are, you can come to terms with your feelings. It's best to accept ourselves for who we are.
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