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writes:Two months ago my husband told me that he wanted a "break" , no rules, we are seperated anything goes!! He moved out. Now we are getting along with each other way better and we are having the best sex ever but he leaves right after we are done. I feel like I am being used ,but I still want him !! Am I wasting my time and should I quit having sex with my husband?
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reader, woo-hoo-- +, writes (3 July 2008):
woo-hoo-- is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell thank you for your comments to my current situation. Yes anything goes means that we are open to see other people, have sex with them, have new relationships. My husband does not want to file for divorice , he said that he just wants a break. He is still paying the bills and providing for me and our child but he has this entire new life, which I am not apart of. He does not want to spend anytime with tme at all. He refuses to go to marriage counsler and does not want to work on our problems. He just comes to the house for sex and leaves when we are finished. Gee....... I writing it makes me sound so desperate. I am lowering myself for a man who does not want me!! I will move on and stop making myself so avaliable for him. This is harder that I thought it would ever be. We grew up together have been best friends for almost twenty years and together for seven. I have lost his frienship and it feels like a void in my life. He's always been there for me and now I need to pray and get over that. I am better than this and I am worth more than he's giving me. Thank you all again for your coments they did help . Susan
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (2 July 2008):
Lexilou has got it perfectly. There are no more pressures on you so the sex is like it was when you first got together, only with experience, so better.
However, if you are still in love with him and he is just enjoying the sex then you are going to have to cut it ff because you are going to get really really hurt.
Sit him down and tell him you want him back. Tell him you know you can both work it out and can change things so you don't get stuck in a rut.
If he says no then you have to stop seeing him. It will break your heart but you will end up bitter and broken if you keep clinging to those few moments a week when he comes to you for sex.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 July 2008):
 When you say anything goes does that mean you are both allowed to sleep with other people?
Aside from that you will be getting along better and the sex great because he has no real committment to you, you are not living together, he has sex and leaves so basically he is using you and you get along better because whatever problems were present to force the break up are no longer present.
You need to decide what outcome you want, are you happy with this situation? Does he have any intention of coming back? Or wll this situation continue indefinately preventing you from being able to move on in your life?
You need to talk to him to find out where you stand to avoid future heartbreak. I hope you can work this out x
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