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writes:Ok well me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 5 months now. I live in Illinois and he lives in Pennsylvania. I know many of you will say it's a long distance relationship and it doesn't mean anything, so just quit it, but it's not that simple. We have met twice on 2 different vacations. He is very in love with me and I'm not sure if I'm in love with him. I just ended it last night, but I don't know if it was a mistake. We are still talking. He's coming to stay at my house in 17 days due to the fact he already bought his plane ticket and it's non-refundable. I am very glad he is still coming, but our communication since the break-up is very different. I broke his heart, but it hurt me very bad also so I don't know if I love him or not. He's my first real relationship so I have no previous relationships to go off of to tell if it's love. I always told him I loved him and all, but looking back at it I'm not sure if I meant it which I know is really bad to do. I'm very confused at the moment. Please help.
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 OOh..thats a toughie...I've been in that situation before, broken up with someone and then had them come and stay, and let me say, AWKWARD at best! The thing to do is while he's there just talk to him, be direct and honest about how you feel, nothing good comes of saying things you don't feel! Long distance relationships are so hard anyway that it only works if you're really in love, and it sounds like you aren't! Made more difficult by your age, you just want to hang out with friends and (possibly, other guys) you start to second guess your feelings for this current boy..
Just be honest and relax.
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