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writes:Im 19yrs old and about 2 years ago I really liked this guy called Chris and I ended up telling him as I thought he felt the same way which was a big mistake.. We never knew each other properly and I guess that was one of the reasons why nothing happened in between us and he had a girlfriend at the time which he told me later on and they're still together.I was heart broken and couldn't get over what happened for nearly a whole year. Now the problem is I've become really close friends with a close mate of his; George, they've known each other since they were small. George didn't make a clear statement but I'm 100% sure he has feelings for me and I guess he doesn't know about me and Chris which doesn't make sense or he just acts like he doesn't know...It's been nearly 3 years and I'm over Chris. Well, I was and I guess I want to think I still am, recently I've been seen him around frequently and I can't avoid it its beyond my control, we don't talk at all. This is when things gets scary... I snap at anyone who talks about him and his girlfriend next to me, its just a reaction, I cant help it! No matter how hard I try, I cant look away when I see him. Me and George spend a lot of time together. We go to the movies, shopping, go out to eat and spend hours on the phone and I know it's not fair to lead him on when I'm still not clear whether I have feelings for him or not especially when the situation involves his friend but I feel secure when I'm with him and he treats me like diamond, He's a lovely guy who seriously deserves the best, I feel guilty thinking about it. I know there is no future for me and Chris together. I don't love Chris and I never knew him well enough to love him, so I know its not love for a fact. I just don't know what it is that makes me feel this way, why do I still have a soft spot for him?? Can someone please help me out, what am I supposed to do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.That statement is used at times to poke fun at women.
It is scarier to realize that it is true.When Chris turned you down your ego took a nose dive.It got hurt.Its still not healed.That explains why you get angry on hearing about him and his girl friend.
Dear all I have to say is, LET GO.Life is too short to hold on to petty grudges.Chris said no because he already had a girl friend.Or he is one of the old school guys who like to do all the pursuing themselves.Think that it was a lesson learned and just open a compartment in your brain and lock it out.I understand its easier said than done.Please do make an effort.
This is holding you back from reaching for your happiness.you have two choices here.Either be miserable about it or toughen yourself up and reach for happiness.
I hope you reach for your happiness.All the best Dear.
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