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writes: I'm caught in the middle here! I've had an amazing boyfriend for over 4 years now... he's been talking about moving in together and eventually getting married for a while now. I love him dearly and I'd never cheated on him. Met this other guy, 10 years older... he made my head spin. He's so incredibly sexy and smart and funny and I'm totally head over heels. He made it pretty clear right from the start that he was not a good trustworthy person, that he loved women and that he wanted to have some fun. I even think he's got a girlfriend. Went out with him and we slept together once (don't judge me, I know I'm a bad person) and I didn't even enjoy it (guilt feelings?). The next morning I told him we'd better not see each other again and now I'm kicking myself because I really do miss him. He hasn't called nor texted nor emailed me (because he knows I got a boyfriend or because he just wanted to sleep with me?). Should I go after him and tell him I want him? Or should I just forget about this womanizer monster and go on with my life with my lovely boyfriend by my side?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): If you know that he's a "womanizer monster", then why would you even question yourself to go after him? Well, you cheated on your boyfriend so you should come clean with him. A womanizer will always make you feel uncomfortable and worry. Forgot about him and go love your boyfriend.
It's going to be tough for your boyfriend because you guys are getting married! Right now, your boyfriend can choose to leave you or stay with you.
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reader, Worried64  +, writes (18 February 2011):
Its sounds like you got played he was honest and upfront with you and I think that appealed to you as it does most woman!! Forget about him he is a waste of time and maybe think abbout ur current situation is ur current bf really what u want maybe take some time and remember why you have been in this relationship for the last four years!!
All and all just be true to yourself because in the end you will be the one who gets really hurt take it from someone who knows "the grass isnt always greener"
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): You honestly even need to ask this question?
Come clean to your boyfriend NOW. Before this goes ANY further and there is still a chance that your relationship can be salvaged.
Ignore, forget, deny, blind yourself to this other man and anything that has even the slightest thing to do with him.
You want to allay your feelings of guilt? Restore some honour to your name? This is how you do it.
You have to put yourself into the hands of your 'beloved' as it were.
Go to coupling therapy to see why exactly you even gave this other douche the time of day knowing what he's like. I mean you are old enough to know better. For shame.
I hope that your boyfriend is a decent human being and gives one chance. And one alone. You cheat again and it's over.
Flynn 24
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