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writes:Hi, I really need help. For the past 3 years or so, I've known I was bisexual. About a month ago I came out to my friends. At first they were a bit suprised but accepted me for it and they sort of joke about it but they mean well. But the problem is that I'm wondering if I should wait a little while until I've done stuff with a girl before being really open about it. Lately it's really getting me down cause I am like in love with my best friend and she would never want me because she's straight. I need help... Will I know once I've been with a girl?
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reader, natalieejanex +, writes (12 February 2011):
 I say this to most people who are/think they are bisexual. its been three years but you haven't dated any women? i'd leave your sexuality open but don't deny being bisexual to anyone because the longer you leave it to come out, its gonna get harder and harder. just be open about it but until you start dating and experimenting with how you feel and your sexuality and start to know what your feeling, there isn't a sure way of knowing. but its all about personal opinions, if you don't feel comfortable telling someone don't say or tell them, just don't lie. you aren't too young to know your sexuality, i'm 17 and i definitely know that im bisexual. yeah so, just wait until you've had experience and then start to question your sexuality.
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reader, Dave2007 +, writes (29 April 2007):
You are definately too young to make a choice about your sexuality in any capacity. It's perfectly normal and natural for teenagers to have bisexual tendancies, your sexuality is still forming (just as you are). Don't pigeon hole yourself by telling people private stuff yet, it really isn't necessary (nor their business). You could get to 18-20 or 22 and have absolutely no feelings towards men and you wouldn't want the stigma of people thinking you are 'bi' when you are not at all.Also (and this sounds harsh and unfair) bisexual men get a really hard rap from society. Whilst it's almost seen as sexy by men and women for women to be bisexual or have had bisexual experiences - the same doesn't apply for men. Men are simply called 'gay' or 'in denial' in short its very, very hard for someone to be an 'out' bisexual man. Because of this keep it private. You don't want women not responding to you because they think you are gay! I say keep things quiet, definately get some experience with women and then a few years down the line (if you still fancy men) experiment a bit. There really is no harm in enjoying sex with both men and women - but it's your own private business.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): Yes wait until you have done something with another girl as you may just feel differntly once you have.
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (3 April 2007):
 hunny I know how this feels and I also know that loving some one who doesnt love you beack is dameging to the soul. I think that only you know deep down what you want to do and if you want to do it then you should if you want to talk more about this mail me k
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): You are only young (13-15 years of age) and if you have known that you have been bisexual for the past 3 years or so that means that you have known ever since you were 10-12 years old. At that sort of age you can't work out what sexuality you are, you're too young for that. To be honest you are too young to know now. As for falling in love with your female best friend how do you know that this isn't just a phase which will fly past you once you become a fully grown adult? So stop pinning names of sexuality on yourself and enjoy your teenage years by having fun.
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reader, Having Problems??? +, writes (3 April 2007):
it is completely your choice wheather you want to open up to everyone about your sexuality and im all for it. if you know that you'r definatly bisexual then there's nothing stopping you. as for your friend im not rely sure but you could always talk to her and tell her how you feel most good friends are quite understanding about these things and if you were in her position im sure you would agree that best friend should support eachother all the way.
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