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anonymous
writes:My ex-boyfriend won't leave me alone- and i know theres a part of me that doesn't want him to. He was my first proper boyfriend- i lost my virginity to him but we broke up, because he deals drugs and is always getting into trouble. The thing that made me realise i should leave him is when i was at his house and he started a fight with the person upstairs, who got back up and my bf ended up getting stabbed while i was in the room next door. I was getting to close to it all and seeing him in these different situations was upsetting to me. Also i think he was cheating on me. Anyway i didn't know how to break up with him, we had been through so much but somehow it just ended and we both new it. Lately his been calling me a lot and coming to my house to see me. Hes 24 and im 17. He also has a child (i found this out by accident when i heard him talking about her on the fone- he still doesn't say anything about her). I know that he hides a lot of his life from me and i don't want to be with him. However there is this part of me that still (i think) loves him. He still turns me on in a way noone has since, i think its because he was my first. Hes sneaky though. My friends hate him and think hes worming his way back and i agree. I just dont know what to do as i still have these mad feeling for him but i know that i really dont want to go back to where we were. HELP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): sounds so familiar. i was you once. invested 10 years of my life. 2 kids later he's doing a jail sentence. that was my way out. best thing i ever did. he still wants me back now years after we broke up. not worth it. i found out he'd had lots a women and several children behind my back and he's still getting into troble. stay clear my friend he really will never change!
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reader, kenny +, writes (3 April 2007):
 To be brutally honest i think you should forget about this guy and move on.
Its natural to still have these feelings for him as he was your first, and you haven't met anyone else yet. Listen to your friends because i think what they are saying is correct. I think if you let him back in its going to end in upset.
Im sure deep down this is not the life you want, the lies, dealing in drugs, the suspected cheating, and hiding things from you.
Do youself a favour and cut him out of the picture, and meet someone who you can totally rely on.
All the best x
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