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writes:Im a 20 year old guy, who has just never been lucky in the dating department. I dont know why, Im not overly attractive but Im not ugly either. And its not like Im not gifted down stairs either. Most girls would love an 8 inch long penis thats 6 inches thick. Ive just never had a girlfriend or got anywhere with women. Im not that shy or anything. But still nothing. Why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): Go read or download Mystery Method, Love Systems Magic Bullets, Love Systems Routines Manual, The Game, and Dating Diablo. They are in depth how to guides to attract women, talk to them, move through an emotional progression model, and ultimately seduce them. Very good reading, it changed my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): This is true. THe only way your cock is going to help you before your clothes come off, is if it goes around by word of mouth. And from what I've seen, guys like that who attract girls like that just get laid...not looked at as a LTR. So do you want to date, or just get laid? To do both the right way, stop thinking about your tool. Probably the most universally consistent thing I've heard about hung guys is that they usually do not know how to seduce, love and be attentive to a woman's needs. The one's that do, probably don't think with their penis size. Most women do not...at least not all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): I know what's going on here. Just because he has a big cock, he believes he has some entitlement to heaps of women.
The fact is - you will have to do all the normal groundwork that the rest of us normal-cocked guys do. That includes dressing well, going to places where there are lots of girls, being charming, being attentive and kind. After you've done these things, then you will get a chance to strut your stuff. Who knows, it might even set off a chain reaction between her girlfriends - I have it on good authority that even though size doesn't matter, it definitely makes girls curious enough to want to check it out.
But my point is, you do not have any kind of entitlement just because of your physical attributes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): I wouldn't say that just becuase he brings up the size of his penis means he is focused on superficiality or sex. What I would say is that is appears you are afraid of rejection, and you somewhat tie that fear to physical attributes. YOu mention your appearance, your shyness and your penis size. Maybe you aren't paying enough attantion to your verbal skills, conversation or charm. I can say I've never won a woman over from my body, cock or what I wear (and I've been told all of those are nice). What HAS won them over is charm. Girls like humor, wit, spontenaety, and to just have fun. Put a little energy with that fun, like a little enticement for what could follow, keep them wanting more without being obvious, and you will be on your way to a relationship.It's tough for 20 year old men. Physically, most guys in their youth look similar...most are still fit or at least lean, unlike when you get into your 30's and beyond. Most are in college, pursuing similar goals. So women have a sea of sameness out there. What sets guys apart from each other? ...personality, facial expressions, and yes, penis size. But which do they see for the first several hours (at least)? It;s not your cock, I can tell you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): 6 inches thick?!?! Sure you don't mean something else?You've never dated because you think it's all about aesthetics. And it's not. You need to put ALOT of effort in and don't get overly confident about the size of your manhood because iys not that important to a woman unless it's weirdly big or small
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (25 July 2010):
 well 20 is a difficult age not quite grown but not a kid.. girls your age probably want older guys. not a immature 20 yr old with nothing to offer.. im not saying your immature or have nothing to offer but a female will see it that way.. my best advice to you is to get more comfortable with women... they can sense your youthful desperation thats not attractive.dating is a hit or miss you just get lucky after a lot of strike outs. you might get a few foul balls too. and hell you may go an entire lfetime and never get a home run.if you just want to show off your penis theres places for that, if you want a gf good luck your gonna need it.. my advice give up focus on other things in life a woman wont make you happy put food in your belly a nice ride in your drive way etc.. men spend alot of time and money chasing women its really not worth it trust me so you can end up with nothing and paying child support.my best advice chase faith then money. and let a women fall into your arms when you have enough of everything else.. your wasting your life and time chasing women.. They love to play little games with guys like you while you drive yourself nuts.. Make money lots of it then spend a few at the spot to blo off some steam and go make more.. you will be far more satisfied then shacked up with some girl in a love cloud it doesnt last.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (25 July 2010):
 The reason why you have never dated is because you think it is all about sex, and the size of your manhood. Frankly that is an after-thought for most women. You have to focus on your personality and conversation skills as being interesting, confident and able to talk are key to long-term relationship success.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 July 2010):
 It's not everything about looks. Good looks obviously attract attention to you, but to keep that attention you need more ,like being personable, having good social skills, charme and wit...
I am afraid that the reason you don't get girls might be precisely because you are the kind of guy who tinks girls are,or should be, primarily interested in your penis size. That may reflect in a way of approaching them that's too direct,superficial or just uncouth.
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reader, ManAfterChrist +, writes (25 July 2010):
 Really? Your penis is 8 inches long and 6 inches thick..? Not that I don't believe you but... well I don't really believe you.Anyways.. it's not about looks. I have a good friend of mine that was blessed with a tremendous body, but is just about to get his first girlfriend (at 20 y/o). He's also hung like a horse (yes, I've seen it).But first off, the size of a penis does not directly correlate to your skills in bed. Secondly, how many girls would actually know if you've never had a girlfriend? THIRDly... even though in my experience I've found girls to be more physically driven than men... it takes social skills to get a girl. You have to be charming. Just having a big penis isn't gonna cut it.We don't know you so we can't tell you why you don't have a girlfriend... but if I were to wager a guess, perhaps you rely on your abnormally large penis too much and you've gotten too much confidence. Confidence is good, but once it crosses over to cockiness....
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