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anonymous
writes:I'm really like this girl. Couple problems though she just broke up with my best mate, he bullies her and is pretty horrible to her but they're still crushing on each other. I'm having a party on Friday because it the end of exams and I don't know if I should make a move, if I do I might make a fool of myself and loose a mate but if I don't I could lose the chance. I'm bisexual and a lot of girls see me as their "gay friend" not really knowing that I CAN like girls, but I'm just really confused on what to do! Help me!?!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): I think you need to take it step by step. Don't rush into anything, then you won't make a fool of yourself. Keep your eyes wide open and monitor her reaction and her body language before you make any moves towards her. If she is giving you the right signals proceed, but if she does not, I suggest you play it cool.
I know this can be tough and confusing, but, this is part of life. We don't know what others are thinking and we can only be guided by there body language and our instinct in the beginning. Fortunately it does get easier when you get to know the person.
Good luck, hope you have a great party and keep us posted.
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Hey,
If your mate bullies her, make sure he doesn't, be there for her, and stick up for her. What I would like to know, is why she likes someone who bullies her...makes no sense to me, but anyway..
Maybe not make a move so soon, considering that your mate is involved, but if you think she likes you too, go for it, I'm not saying risk your friendship if you're worried about that, I'm just saying if the feeling mutual, then, why not?
Also, do people think you're gay? if they know you're bi, then they know you like girls as well as guys, if people don't know this, explain to them, you do like girls. If this comes up, set them straight, if they don't get it, they don't get it, if you're happy that's all that matters.
Good Luck with whatever you decide to do.
Hope this helps.
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