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writes:I am bisexual, turning 18 in March.I have a friend, who I think I am in love with...I told her I liked her but she told me that she is straight.But she also said before all this shit, that it's okay to flirt with her.One time, she and my other friends were talking about a guy, she was chatting with and her. I got mad and left, I came back and she yelled at the other friends for causing a misunderstanding. Then she said that she wanted a girl.Later when I started hard on flirting with her, she told me that she has a crush on this guy.Now, when I am trying to ignore my feelings, she told me that "boobs are best", totally randomly.She has also made that vagface sign multiple times (but she probably doesn't know what it means)What does it mean?What should I think about this?Should i try to stop having these feelings for herqhat should I do...BTW I have tried to stop thinking about you her... Even succeeded a few times..But I keep coming back to the station line.
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reader, Sweet Dreamer xxx  +, writes (19 February 2019):
 Sadly many girls can be egotistical, she could just be using your crush to fill that need. Stringing you along is a way to conitinously get this fill.
You need to distance yourself, this isn't a friend, this her abusing that so called friendship and your feelings for her. I understand it can be difficult to move on especially at such a young age, but you will meet someone that would adore you and not use you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 February 2019):
 OP, stop beating your head against a brick wall.
You might LIKE her, but she doesn't like YOU in "THAT" way. She NEVER will.
She likes the attention you give her, but she also likes to tease and hurt you. Not really something a GOOD friend would do.
And YOU need to ACCEPT that just because YOU like her, doesn't mean SHE will like you or want to BE with you. Obviously she doesn't.
Step away from her, she is kind of toxic. And you need to learn to respect other people's boundaries and actually LISTEN to what they say.
SHE told you she was STRAIGHT, which means there can be NOT romantic involvement here. If you are hoping for a GF look elsewhere.
Don't waste your time flirting with someone who just do it as a joke. Because the joke is ON you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2019): She's telling you to stroke her ego, and boost her self-esteem; while making a total fool of yourself.
You are gay and she is straight. What part of that don't you understand? If she's not into girls, and crushing on a guy; why would you go get yourself hot and bothered and all emotionally-attached? Then she decides she wants a guy!
I'm gay, and you're just wanting after something forbidden. It's tempting and titillating to think you can bring a straight-person over. It's one of the dumbest and most manipulative things gay-people can ever do. Learn now while you're still very young.
I would take it as far as calling it self-destructive. It's setting yourself up for heartbreak, and failing to practice control over your impulses. There are boundaries you just don't cross. Unless you'd prefer to learn the hard-way; and get your heartbroken and played like a cheap fiddle.
Don't stoop beneath your dignity, chasing after straight people. I've seen too many gay-men and lesbians emotionally-damaged behind that stupidity.
In a way, she's mocking and making fun of you. You don't deserve that.
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reader, N91 +, writes (18 February 2019):
 She is straight, you are not, this will not work.
She’s messing you about because she knows you like her, she gets a kick out of knowing you want her but she will never give in. What she’s doing is cruel.
Either find a new friend, or accept that this is never going to happen and your feelings will not go away whilst you’re still hanging out with her.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (18 February 2019):
 You need to distance yourself. She’s messing you about because girls and boys your age do say things about who they are, or who they like, without wanting to commit to any of it. Whether she means to or not, she’s giving you false hope. Don’t flirts with her, just give yourself space to move on. She’s not the one for you :)
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