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writes:Hi!Ok, how shall I say this. I know the topic of teacher crushes has been discussed to death, but mine happens to be a tad more unique, mainly cos I'm a girl, my teacher's a girl. So anyways, I've realized I'm bi since I was 11 years old, so its not a surprise for me to fall for a female teacher. What is shocking, is that I've liked her for about four years now. Considering my track record, that is a very long time to like a person. I've never felt this way about anyone before. (That includes previous boyfriends, previous girlfriends, current boyfriend, previous crushes)I always just want to be near her, talk to her, hell even seeing her is a relief. According to friends, she's not pretty, but to me she is one of the most gorgeous woman I've ever seen. She's extremely nice, and she always takes time out to see me whenever I just needed someone to talk to. And the worst thing is, I'm getting mixed signals. Everytime we talk, she'll stand closer, and I'll sorta lean in. She always walks over and help me even before I raise my hand. At lunch, if I see her, she'll come over to my group of friends and start talking to me/us. But then, there's always that voice in the back of my head reminding me that she's my teacher.I'm a very logical person by nature. I don't usually give in to emotions. So right now, I've got two sides fighting. 1. The rational OMG you retard she's your teacher and you have a boyfriend, what are you thinking. Step away now. Stop thinking about her yadda yadda. And my second side 2. The emotional ahhh I can see her soon, maybe I'll get to carry on a conversation without being interrupted. she's so nice. and pretty. and loveable. and yadda yaddaYeah? So I am really confused. My friends (only like...4 of them know how I feel) have tried getting me seeing other guys/girls. (didn't work) writing down a list of her flaws (didn't work) played devils advocate as to why I can never be with her (didn't work) T_TI am about to scream out of frustration. If anyone has any idea what I can do about this little....crush of mine. (ie. get rid of it/move on from it/resolve it) I'm all ears.Oh, and I can't sleep at night cos I'm thinking about her. And worst part...she's like 20 years older than me. And married. Any answers would be appreciated, or insights. Ta.
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reader, songaddict15  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 I agree with the posters above. I am only 16 and we are on the same page, i've been liking her for almost 3 years. I don't know if i have the rights to tell you this but yeah you should back off.. try to back off.. don't be like me that are too obsess now to back off. believe me you don't wanna feel how i felt and how im feeling right now, it totally ruined my life.. friends breaking up.. i mean me and my other friends had fights just because of her, wanting me to move on about her.. but here im miss stubborn soo yeah.. I used to be confuse but i am definitely in love with her. I can see myself with her.. wait wait wait.. i know that i don't have a chance even though she's single.. but yeah i promise to myself after i graduate i'll add her as a friend on facebook.. or email her.. so we can meet up and stuff..
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reader, jodieleigh  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 stay away.. a big huge red and orange sirens go off! i'm sorry hon but its a big no no! i know thats the last thing you wanna hear but its true.. just think .. when you leave school you wont see her .. and maybe you will have a chance to get over her. out of sight out of mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): Leave it alone... it's a crush and not reality.
If you like this person and care for their well being do NOT try to advance this, in the off chance that they might take you up on it (and it's virtually a zero chance) it would RUIN her life when someone found out, and could be illegal where you live. It would certainly cost her her job, and prevent her from teaching again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): She is not into you.
Do you even know if she's bi/lez? More than likely she helps & talks to you at lunch because you're one of her students that she actually knows well. Teachers have friendly conversations with their students a lot. The getting closer thing is something you're reading too much into as well. Sorry, but I highly doubt anything's happening there
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