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writes:Hi, i'm a woman who likes men and women. I have never been comfy about my female attraction and kept it hidden for along time, my close friends and family now know, they are great about it. My problem is i have now fallen for a lovely woman, she is great but i've never had long term relationships with women before, mainly with men and now a year down the road my girlfriend wants commitment from me, i love her alot but i'm so afraid as i'm not sure whether i can live the gay lifestyle, give up men and my chances of having a family.... I'm 32 years old, body clock is ticking...My girlfriend isn't happy that i hide her from acquaintances and i'm not open about us or affecionate when we go out. Like i said, i've never been comfy with the woman thing. I don't want to lose her, what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): If you love her, don't end the relationship. This may be the best relationship you'll ever have. Don't be afraid of your sexuality. Don't deny yourself love. I would highly recommend getting counseling (from a gay-friendly counselor or psychologist). I think counseling can help you to be comfortable about your sexuality. Also, you CAN have children with your partner. You don't have to forgo children in a same-sex relationship (One of you can give birth and/or adopt a child). Good luck.
I forgot to add, do you feel you NEED a man, or are you afraid that you might be missing something? If you don't NEED a man and your relationship with your partner is good, don't worry about it. Remember that if you leave your partner for a man, you will regrets about leaving your partner like you have regrets about not being with a man. Remember to do what you feel is right in your heart. Whatever you do, I'd again recommend counseling. Even if you decide to be with a man, you should still be comfortable with your sexuality.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (15 January 2008):
 You know you could still have a baby? you could have IVF and carry the baby. But you already got problems with this relationship, I know its properly hard but you need to show more affection when out, be proud of who you are. You know your bi and in love so why not show it? If I saw two women holding hands, I wouldn't care. I live in gay capital so I see gay people all the time!
But if you really want an man and kids with him, then you have to end it now. I can understand either way, I'm bi and got a b/f and I know I want to end up with a man in the end but sometimes it dosen't work out that way. Do what makes you happy!!
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