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writes:Ok i need some help again! I'm pretty sure i'm Bi, but i have a boy friend who i've been with for a year and 6 months. I have two questions. 1 is how do i go about messing around in bed with one of my best friends? 2 is If i do stuff with my best friend is that chesting on my boyfriend?
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reader, Belladonna +, writes (16 July 2008):
It is cheating if you things with your friend. Yes, I understand you have sexual feelings for her, but you're in a relationship. You wouldn't do these things with a boy, don't do them with a girl.
And I do understand. I'm bisexual, so I know how confusing that can be.
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reader, Cherriepie +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Yes it is cheating if you have sex with your friend, behind your boyfriends back. But if you are honest with him and tell him wbout your desires, he might just accept it and you are ok.
At your age I can umderstand your confusion. At your age I only dated boys, but once I started liking girls too, I made it clear with any guy that I was with that i had to maintain my freindships with my girlfriends too. As long as your guy and you have an understanding, its not cheating. I've never been "in love" with my girlfriends so my relationship with my guys have been good.
My boyfriend now is so cool with it and we sometimes do threesomes so he doesnt feel left out.
I think you can work this out and not involve guilty thoughts thinking its cheating..but be open with him. If he is not accepting of it, you either have to cheat and live with it or better to break up with him. I wouldn't be steady with any one anyway at your age. Its ok to have many friends and hook up once in a while, but if you have a steady guy, you have to be faithful to them or be honest about what you do with other girls.
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reader, longandsmooth87  +, writes (16 July 2008):
technically it is cheating. how to solve the problem, JUST LET HIM KNO YOUR BI, thats about any guys fantasy just let him in on your other side ya kno. you'll both feel better, you wont think your cheating and he gets some kinky sex. its a win win situation
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 I don't understand your first question. Are you asking how to get her in bed with you, or what to do with her once you're there?
As for your second question - of course it's cheating.
If your boyfriend went off and had sex with another guy, you'd be hurt, wouldn't you? Cheating is cheating, regardless of gender.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): i am bi as well and my boyfriend knows i am and accepts that i am. have you told him? some guys think regardless if it's a female or a male...cheating is cheating! my boyfriend, since he approves, he doesn't care if i am with a female but wouldn't want me to be with a man. i choose to stay faithful because i am complete with my man and don't feel the need to be with a women. of course i miss being with a female but luckily i have many bi friends too that i can make out with lol but i'm always honest with him. it depends how your boyfriend feels about it and depends if you care how he feels. cause it sounds like even though you have a boyfriend...you still wanna mess with your best friend. being curious is no harm but i strongly suggest you to open up and talk about it and see how your boyfriend feels
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