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writes:hi i had an affair 20 years ago cause my husband was always leaving me in the house at night with my 2 sons. i beg him to stop going out it went on for about 3 months. so i had a one off affair with the neighbour 2 doors away from me, my husband caught me there. he went mad but send he would never leave me, and would never do it back to me, but 6 months later he left me, and went with anoter girl staight away. he told me he dident get with her till the next day. he left me he work with this girl her mum and dad owned a pub he left me for a week then came back i had him back but he will not tell me the truth that he was seeing her before he left me and thats why he left what do you think? any now my mums died my sons have left home and its just him and me and im on a low cannot cope about my mum and sons and all the affair and him leaving me as come back in my head i cannot get it out my mind its is tearing me apart cause i think he left me for her
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): Hi! I hope you are doing a little better. I still can't get through to your private mail. I have a suggestion though, if you trust me, which you can, send me a private msg. Include your regular email address and I will reply through my regular email. We can correspond that way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): To: Original Poster...I tried to reply to your most recent private msg., but I am being blocked. You must have inadvertently clicked on "block these emails" Or whatever it says. I don't know how you can undo that, but until you can, I can't respond to you privately. I am assuming it was an accident, since you just sent me a msg 15 minutes ago.
What I can tell you, is that it will take baby-steps. Tell yourself you will not think about the incident, for the next 20 minutes, gradually increase the time to an hour, then two, eventually 24 hours and then start taking it one day at a time! It works if discipline yourself. You said you were seeing a Therapist, correct? Talk about this with her/him. Get as many suggestions as possible on how to deal with the situation. And don't blow any of them off. Try everything suggested.
If you are a spiritual person, pray about it! Good Luck and I hope you can undo the block on your mailbox, so we can talk some more!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): I agree with Gina...Your dredging up old stuff, becuase you are hurting over losing your Mom, and your sons leaving home. You need to get your life back in order...and you need help to do it. Find a therapist that can help you sort it all out. If all the past with your husband has come back since your mom passed, then it is obvious that's what's causing it! Twenty years ago is a very long time to dwell on something! Now more than anytime in your life, you should be able to lean on your husband for support. But I am sure because you are thinking about what happened 20 yrs ago, you are unable to open up to him. If there is more to this than you have expressed, (like, your relationship with him for the time between then and now) we need to know, to give productive advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): darling.there are a lot of messages here.tell him put up with his love and commitment or say good night.you probably do not realise what a great lady you are.Years of his overbearing crap,baby get strong, you are the queen n of the house!!!!!!!.Love me and look after me or xxxx off.
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