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anonymous
writes:Ok, so here is my problem. I hung out with this guy who we both connected on an unbelievable level. I know for absolute fact he is in to me so this is not a question of that. We where so in to each other that even though it was our first time out together we ended up having a heavy make out session in his car. In the end he said that he was planing to be a gentleman and crossed the line, so we have slipped back into friendship territory. I have a lot of respect for him and we are two incredibly creative souls. I am glad to find someone with respect for me, but I can only wounder how long am I going to have to wait in the friendship territory before we can move past him feeling bad about the situation. A couple of months ago he got out of a serious relationship, and is sharing living space with his ex. Which is not a big deal to me, and in a couple of days this will be solved. Do you think he is just waiting till this is solved before he makes another move or if he is just going to beat himself up for a while because he had a plan he didn't stick to. I told him I would be patient and that I didn't regret anything. But he is still hesitant.I'm not sure what I'm asking, I just need an opinion even if it is what I already stated.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Dear Anon
Perhaps what you may need right now is reassurance. Naturally, this is hard on you. But this guy is wise for not wanting to rush into anything yet.
My advise is to not push him into something he is not ready for apply pressure. Provide him with the patient and support that he needs and when the time is right I am sure he will make the move.
You will have better chances at giving this relationship a go by taking things slow.
No matter how nerve recking it may seem at the moment, he may need some time to recover from rebound.
Everytime a relationship breaks up, it is a very stressful situation even when amicable.
Hope things work out for you
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): Sounds like you've found a gooden. Dont let him go, I think its great that he respects you! Its okay hes probably feeling bad going so far after he planed to take things slow. Your doing the rite thing by letting him have his time, having just got out of a relationship. Theres my opinion your doing everything fine.
All the best xx
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