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*laireh96
writes:Since the year above us left school, everyone has moved back a bit, on the bus. I've been sitting on the back row now for a few weeks. There is a boy who gets on at my bus stop, who also sits at the back. But he has sat on the back row for a few years because of his sister. I got on the bus this morning and went to sit at the back (The whole 5 seats on the row were empty), He sits on the middle seat, I sit by the widow, usually. He gets on first and goes to the back and stands in the aisle with his arms across, holding onto the two seats in front so I couldn't get to my seat. The conversation went:Me: "Excuse me, Ryan"Ryan: "You can't sit here"Me: "Yeah I can, move"Ryan: "They're reserved, go sit somewhere else" Me:"No they're not, you can't reserve seats. Besides, I've been sitting there for the last few weeks! Don't try and tell me what I can and can't do! Move!"I tried to push past him but I couldn't. There were no more seats left so I had to sit with a younger girl a few rows away from the back. It was a bit embarrassing to be honest, I don't like him trying to control me, telling me where I can and cannot sit! When I sat down I could feel tears fall down my face as I felt as though he was bullying me. He thinks he owns the bus and refers to it as "My Bus". This was today. I'm getting the bus tomorrow, what should I do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 July 2012):
 there you go! you fixed it yourself!
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reader, claireh96 +, writes (6 July 2012):
claireh96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I got on the bus today. same thing happened "You cant sit back here" then "I said I can do whatever the hell I want" and then I pushed him so hard that he nearly went through the back window. You should have seen his face :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 July 2012):
I know you want to sit where you want to sit but to be honest this is a bit silly.
He's a bully and they are insecure miserable people.
You could stand up to him.
Is it a school bus with a dedicated driver? If so perhaps the driver can intervene for you with a general rule of "no saving of seats" or something.
IF not, I think that learning to take the high road and IGNORE things that are not all that important in the span of life is a critical adult skill to have.
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (6 July 2012):
 OP, I'm with you all the way on this. Others have said it's a trivial matter and it shouldn't concern you, but this clown is acting in an unacceptable way and speaks volumes about his future behaviour as a citizen. He should have his card marked right now.I suggest that you record his actions - you have a phone that does that? - and show someone in authority; your form teacher or headmaster. I would expect that as soon as he sees that you are gathering evidence, he will behave. BUT, he might also attempt to take your phone, so do please have a friend to support you when you do this.If you watch this year's Big Brother, there's an example there of the sort of person Ryan will grow into if he is not checked now.
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reader, claireh96 +, writes (5 July 2012):
claireh96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBy the way, I didn't write the words "Bullying" I didn't know what like the main title should be so I just left it blank and thats what the moderators changed it to :)
I've just always sat at the back because all of the young kids are at the front and scream/shout/jump around/whatever. I'm not saying it's mine or his. Just the fact that he thinks he can tell me where I can and cannot sit x
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reader, claireh96 +, writes (5 July 2012):
claireh96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBy the way, I didn't write the words "Bullying" I didn't know what like the main title should be so I just left it blank and thats what the moderators changed it to :)
I've just always sat at the back because all of the young kids are at the front and scream/shout/jump around/whatever. I'm not saying it's mine or his. Just the fact that he thinks he can tell me where I can and cannot sit x
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reader, claireh96 +, writes (5 July 2012):
claireh96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have a friend who I sit with, but she gets on a few stops later. Its also the fact that I don't want him to think that he has control over me, if you know what I mean? I'm not asking him to change seats or whatever either x
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (5 July 2012):
Sit somewhere else. Why would you want to be sat near to such an unpleasant person anyway? Whilst it may be really annoying to have to change where you sit when it’s this boy that’s in the wrong, unfortunately he also has a right to sit where he wants so you’d be better off finding somewhere else and staying away from him. And having to sit with some-one else isn’t the end of the world, why not try and make conversation with whoever you sit with and get to know new people?
However, if there’s nowhere else to sit, do the same thing that you did before: politely ask him to let you past, if he won’t insist that he lets you past. IT might be something that he won’t bother doing again, but if he does you should also tell a teacher. You’re absolutely right that this is bullying and it’s unacceptable. IT’s not his bus, and if he doesn’t just get bored and find a better way to spend his morning, he needs to be told by an adult to stop behaving in this way.
I wish you all the very best.
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