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writes: Hey guys this is Sweetie Pie and I have a MAJOR problem!!!You see there's this kid at my bus stop. I'm in sixth grade and he bothers me and my 2 other friends a lot. He's only in eighth grade and he smokes, drinks, and does other drugs too. And he also carries around a lighter to threaten me and my friends with and he carries around little small knives and also threatens us with those too. He also hits us REAL hard and he cuts himself too.My other friends say I should ignore him and he'll stop, but it's gotten to the point where I'm afraid he'll hurt someone real badly and the only reason I didn't tell anyone but my friends is because I'm afraid he'll find out I told on him and hurt me while no one's around or watching.My friends think we should change our bus or tell a guidance counsellr but I don't want this to happen to anybody else. What should i do? He also got my cell # somehow and he keeps calling me. I really don't know what to do and am scared to leave my house because of this.Please, you guys really need to help me and my friends before something bad happens... Sweetie Pie
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (20 March 2006):
 Sorry to hear that sweetie pie, bullying is totally unacceptable behaviour and sorry to hear that this guy is being a complete creep.
It is never an easy decision to make but I think you need to tell a guidance counsellor or trusted teacher and they will help you.
Bullies bully for many different reasons. They may have been bullied themselves, abused, may be trying to impress an older sibling or friend, or may have low self esteem because of a learning difficulty etc.
In my opinion, bullies need to be told on so their behaviour can get looked at. Kids who bully can grow up to be bullies in the workplace, home and in the general community and that is unacceptable.
It is vital that you tell someone to help you but also to esnure that the bully is helped so they stop treating other people in this way now and for the rest of their lives,
In the long run, telling on them will help you and many others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): Nobody should ever have to put up with this behaviour. You've taken the first step by writing in to DEAR CUPID so now take the second and tell a teacher you really trust because this behaviour is getting out of hand. Your friends obviously don't understand how you feel, as it's really hard to ignore somebody who's doing this. You should be able to go to school in a safe environment, where you feel safe as well.
You have to tell someone. An adult, be it parent, teacher, school nurse, but tell an adult who can help.
And remember, when he's older and he can't quit these habits he's taken up to look cool, he'll regret it, not you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): If you haven't told him to stop this behavior, please do so. Also, you must tell your guidance counselor/principal plus your parents and if you've got a priest or minister, I'd tell him too. At least one of these people should listen and take action. This boy is terrorizing you and others, and he's got no right to do so. He needs help and some time in a juvenile facility. Oh, but realize this: This boy is like all other bullies/terrorists; he will cry foul once the authorities (or anybody else) deals effectively with him. I guarantee you that in his mind, it is his absolute right to terrorize/bully others, and he's got to be re-educated about what is right and what is wrong. The sooner it starts, the better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): Change your bustop, then go to a guidence councelor. You need to get away from him asap before it is too late. Do you think there is another way you could get to school? A parent, a friends parent? Tell them about your situation also. Even if you dont want to get them involved, it will help in the long run. You dont deserve to be treated like this, so please get some type of help soon!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): You may fear what will happen if you tell an adult about what this boy is doing, but if you don't tell ANYONE, he'll start getting bolder with his harassment - because you are the kind of victim who keeps things to herself.
No matter what he's doing now, things can only improve by telling an adult at your school, or your parents. Rest assured he's probably harrassing many different people at your school, there's no way he'll find out who exactly reported him.
On a final compassionate note, if he is indeed involved with hard drugs/self-mutilation, you will be doing his future self a favour by calling some outside attention to his problems. If these things get dealt with, his bullying habits might die off, too.
So TELL SOMEONE.
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