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writes:Hi, I have a real big problem. I don't know what's happening!Two years ago I got put into a maths group with people I barely knew. I sat next to a girl and two boys. Let's call one of them boys Bob. I started talking to them and Bob was really annoying so I wrote a note to the other boy about him. Bob read the note. He went in a mood with me and started to talk the other girl. I got a jealous and saw that he really was a nice guy.A couple of months after that we were good friends and I wanted it to stay that way, so I started calling him my names like Bro and Cuz. I did this so he wouldn't ask me out like all the other boys I get close to.We started bonding and now we are really close. I mean close. I can't explain it. I've never felt this way about anyone. I don't fancy him at all but I love him and I want to hug him and never let go, but never go out with him. It's hard to explain but I have never felt this way before ever. I'm also starting to see another side to him - a unique one - it's hard to explain. Sorry I haven't really explained this well but I have no idea what's happening. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2006): What do you mean by "make things how they were?"
What is more important - what other people think, what Bob thinks, or what you think?
Maybe you and Bob are not ready for an adult relationship. When I was 17 I had a special friendship with a girl and our friends were sure we were going out - except we weren't. The rumours had no effect on our friendship. We stayed good friends for almost 20 years since high school.
So, do you care more about what other people think or do you care more about Bob?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionan update - eeryone thinks i fanc him because im getting close to him and things are become abit awkard between us!! has anyone got any tips to make things how they were?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhiya thanks for answering!! its really helped. im seeing our relationship with different eyes. your right what we have is special.
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reader, Magic Maker +, writes (18 March 2006):
well i think that your in love !!! this may be a one in a life time chance and i say take it. you dont want to loose him as a friend either so i wound tell him slowey giving tips on the way he looks and flirt a bit. you never no if he likes you to but maybe he give you signs you may miss. you could tell but all im saying is you dont wanna brake all you've got
you have trust for bob and you wanna make it work. many people have. if you get on so well and enjoy being with eachother then this is a love math in heaven.xx good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): You have something with Bob that is special - a loving but platonic relationship. Boyfriends will come and go but you will still have this relationship with Bob through the years. I have a number of such relationships with women. And yes I am married and my wife trusts me with these women. That's because she has similar platonic relationships with guys.
People will whisper behind your back and/or say to your face that they suspect a thing between you and Bob. Take pity on them as you and Bob share an inside joke about their ignorance. It really is quite fun!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (18 March 2006):
 This is simply a really good friendship, one that will probably last a very long time. As you have no sexual feelings there, and you're sure he doesn't either, just go with it!!! This is truly a wonderful thing, something some people never experience.
I think you may just be stuck in a stereotype that lot's of people have that boys and girls are boyfriends and girlfriends and this just isn't true. Girls and boys can just be mates too, and really good ones, and I think this is what you have with this guy.
Don't worry, just enjoy being with him and having fun.
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