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writes:my friend hacked into my freinds account and saw that she was bi becasue she asked questions like i think im bi .....ect well anyways she told me and a few other people that she was bi and the rumor spread and everyone is blaming me saying i started it....what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (8 April 2009):
 There is an old fashioned term for gossiping that seems appropriate here, trifling with your neighbors name. Your friend had her innermost thoughts stolen, and used for idle amusement, that hurts. Now the same group of girls is passing around the information that you were involved in getting the word out. So now you are also a victim. This gossiping, or trifling, seems like so much innocent girl talk (or guy talk), until you end up on the wrong side. Then you can see how malicious and damaging it can be.
What should you do? Make up your mind that you will not participate in this. Decide today that you will guard your neighbors secrets as if they were your own. When you are in a conversation and it turns to gossip, tell them that you find the topic inappropriate. If that doesn't work turn your back and walk away. Soon your friends will see that you will have no part in their game, and they will not gossip around you.
I hope you don't think I am accusing you of being a gossip. As far as I( know you have never told a tale in your life. But, being a good example is about the best thing you can do. undoing a gossips damage is about like trying to catch all the feathers from a broken pillow in a thunderstorm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Tell your friend who hacked into her account and startes spreading the rumors. If she doesn't believe or forgive you, there's nothing you can do. Just move on with your life and pray that one day the truth comes out.good luck
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