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writes:please help, i moved in with my boyfriend about one month ago.we have been dating for four years now our sex life has been great.i wen't ot bed the other night and he was still up. well i got up to go to the bathroom and found him masterbating, to a country music video. he does not know i seen him, i woulden't have thought any thing of it but for the past couple months he can not get hard, while we attempt to have sex. we have tried everything. now im begining to think it's because he is masterbating every night when i go to bed. he claims he does not know why he cant get hard. i find it funny he can get hard as a rock when he is watching random girls on t.v. im begining to think he is not attracted to me any more. please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): maybe he can only get it hard like 1 time a day some guys are weird like that my bf said that it happened 2 him before i knew him when he was with his ex . and he used to masturbate then that wasv it he was done. have you tried everything with him ?
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reader, ITTYBITTY +, writes (18 September 2007):
ITTYBITTY is verified as being by the original poster of the question I WANT OT SAY THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO RESPONDED, IT HELPED VERY MUCH.
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reader, ITTYBITTY +, writes (18 September 2007):
ITTYBITTY is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI WANT OT SAY THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO RESPONDED, IT HELPED VERY MUCH.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (18 September 2007):
He could have been testing himself because he really has a problem. He should see a doctor about ED.
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reader, rcn +, writes (18 September 2007):
 I would have to say he's beating it too much. That could make it where he can't get it up for sex. He's fantasizing and looks like he's missing that there's nothing like the real thing.
Some of the girls on the country channel are pretty, but that doesn't mean you are not. He may have a fascination with girls he knows he can't have. In a way, not to his extent, we all do it. I have wondered if Tim McGraw and Faith Hill ever look at their relationship like, "I get to sleep with a superstar" just knowing how many guys and girls would trade places with them for a night.
I would have to say he may be taking this to an unhealthy level. It's not unhealthy for a guy or girl to self satisfy, but it is if it starts interfering with the relationship you have. You need attention too, and if he respects the relationship you have, he'd be giving it to you.
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reader, lovejunkie  +, writes (17 September 2007):
 Think about the way some of these girls look. How do you compare? It could be that he was initially attracted to you because he didn't want to be alone. Maybe you were stable, funny, sweet. Maybe it wasn't based on his attraction for you at all. But appearances can be changed. Could it be that you just need to get in touch with your inner beauty? Maybe it's time for a make-over. Dye your hair blonde, get highlights, start dressing more sexy. Many men lose interest in their women because they always see them in sweats and big, baggy t-shirts. Women sometimes become too comfortable once they've snagged a boyfriend to make an effort with their looks. When was the last time you had a make-over and gave yourself the chance to really shine? Aside from him having serious problems of porn addiction, or lust, it might be something you can easily solve if she sees you as the hot babe, instead of the ones on TV. Try it and see what happens. It might just be the thing that puts the sizzle back into your relationship.
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