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writes: Hi everyone.Ive been in my relationship now for about a year almost and its been steady and a happy one.Things has been really good and still is but i dont know why i feel this but my partner keeps telling me how much they love me etc and how special i am and how ive changed their life etc...etc...most people would be happy to hear this and not question it dont get me wrong im happy to hear these things but at the same time i feel as if it puts pressure on me and im beging to feel a bit sufficated by it.I do have my time alone to do my things from time to time and i always give plenty of notice to confirm it to them sometimes i do get a bit of oh so im not going to see you that day then but i have given at least 2 weeks notice.But at the same time when they do their own things i dont even get asked if thats alright before i know it its arranged and i have to accept it.Which i do but now im begining to resent it purelly because im not asked first when i give respect enough to arrange my time alone.Am i just being over sensitive or do i have a right to be a bit touchy about this? Thankyou for any advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2006): Thankyou for your reply.It happend today i went round and they said they are going out tomorrow night and could i see them thursday instead.I said no i cant due to my car being in the garage having work done which they knew. and as much as i wanted to tackle the subject i kept quiet.I know im not their keeper but all i ask is for a bit of respect like i give respect over this subject.Maybe im too soft and so much in love and its making me a touchy.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (19 September 2006):
 Just discuss it with her - she loves you, so you should be able to find words to break it to her in a nice way which she can accept..
Start with the issue of 'time alone', you could just ask her to let you know in good time, as you do for her.
As for all the attention you are getting - well, as you say, she is only showing you how much she feels for you, and it does'nt mean she is a bad person! That is a more delicate one to address however, as she may of course be offended or hurt if you ask her not to do it.
You could just say to her that you know how she feels about you, and she does not have to keep telling you so many times, and just to relax, and as long as you keep re-assuring the fact of how much you love her, she should be happy with it.
Speaking from a personal point of view, I do the same with my bf, and he responds with a jokey "I should think so, or there'll be trouble!!" Having said that, he tells me just as often how much he loves me, and I am happy. We just need constant reassurance, us sensitive types - so we do this in the hopes of being told that we, indeed, are loved too!
Just enjoy it - you would miss it if it was'nt there, and love so deep is not easy to come by even once in a lifetime..for some it never happens..so keep on re-assuring her, and once she is absolutely certain that you feel the same as her, she should relax.
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