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41-50,
*sIndependent28
writes:Hello, I was in a relationship for 3 in half years and it was a on and off relationship. My ex just broke up with me 2 n a half months ago. the relationship was a really bad one and my ex was a self centered, cocky, manipulating, possessive controlling, and jealous person. You would think after him breaking up with me I would run for the nearest exit but I didn't. I still love are i think i do. In the beginning of our relationship he was a caring, charming, an impressive person and such a gentlemen. These two months an a half I wouldn't call him for a week then I'll start back calling him he never calls me I always call him he would reply back and say mean and rude things and hurt my feelings and I would hurt more by the things he would say he verbally abused me in this relationship. It's like he complained about everything even when i tried to change things he didn't like and he would still complain. A few days ago me and him met up for the first time in 2 in half months and we talked he blamed me for everything and when i told him some of the things he done to me he ignored them and started talking about the things i done to him he acts like he never did me wrong he will never take responsibility to the things he done to me but I consider alot of things he said i did to him.Then he broke the news to me that he met someone and he thought he would never be happy with someone else after me i wanted to cry at that moment but i did'nt i held back my tears like it didnt bother me, but when i got home i cried like a baby. He acted has if everything i ever done went in vain like i never made him happy when friends and family saw different. Why can't I let him go when it's plain to see he don't care and never loved me the way I loved him why am I still holding on to him and it's over between us i loved him unconditionally flaws and all what am i holding on to? It Doesn't hurt as bad as it use to when we always broke up my heart is healing but part of me want him in my life and part of me is like move on you deserve better. I'm a beautiful woman and alot of men like me but i find myself not wanting to move on. Please help someone!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): there is nothing more untrue than a womans love. your ex knows this. what you are experiencing now is is your pride
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reader, MsIndependent28 +, writes (8 December 2008):
MsIndependent28 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you i really needed to hear that!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): I think people that hold on to this type of relationship have low self esteem. You say you're a beautiful woman and I'm sure you are, but if you really thought this deep down you wouldn't want to settle for someone who treats you so poorly. Besides which, real love is about a lot more than looks. Abusive relationships only bring your self esteem lower, making you think you don't deserve better than this kind of treatment. The best thing you can do for yourself is never to contact this man again. It's really hard to get over someone while still being in contact with them. It takes a lot of willpower to not call, but just remember how you feel every time you talk to him. Then you can grieve the end of this relationship, try to learn something from it, and go on to find a nicer man who appreciates you.
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