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writes:Ok, this is a bit embarrassing, but here goes...I first met my God-mother's son about 4 years ago. The first time we met, I was too shy to talk to him so I chatted to my sister instead. To my complete shock, after the event, I was informed by my sister and my mum that he kept looking at me throughout the evening! They still tease me about it today, so I doubt they made it up.Our second encounter was a little embarrassing. I was dropping off a birthday gift for my God-mother, and I rung the bell at her door. However, was not her who answered the door, but her son! Plus, he had no shirt on. I mumbled something about the birthday gift, handed it to him, and then walked away as fast as I could! It was actually quite funny.Well, now he's in a band, and since music is so important to me, I find him even more attractive. I swear I'm obsessed with his band - even though it's really not my preferred style, I play it again and again and again... I guess I'm just trying to learn more about him in a bizarre, round-about way.The only problem is that he is in his early 20's (I don't know his exact age), while I am only 17.I'm guessing he finds me attractive because he allegedly "couldn't stop looking at me" across the room the first time we met.I just don't know whether the age gap between us is too great! My initial reaction is: "He's waaaay too old for you! Are you crazy?!". But I just can't stop thinking, and fanatasising, about him! Since we've never talked properly, I'm guessing it's not 'true love'. But it feels pretty close to it!Should I make a move?It's strange, because I know that if someone else asked me that question, I would reply with a definite "No".I feel so confused... :sPlease, if you think that you could help me with this problem, reply asap!Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo Everyone -
Thanks so much for the advice!! It's really helped :) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): Ok so hes got a job and is 23 doesn’t mean you need to start behaving like a 23 year old woman, and as we all know guys don’t mature as fast as girls LOL all jokes aside, you will still be you and he will still be him that is why the two of you have this attraction to each other, being with a man that is 23 doesn’t mean you would have to do the kind of things 23 year olds do, you can take it slow, and perhaps a year later you’ll feel different about this, if that is your only doubt about this, then go for it, but angel if your heart is telling you not to do that right now than rather wait until you can feel that every part of you is saying yes to this.
The age gap is really not that big
Good luck dear
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just discovered that he is 23, which means he's 6 years older than me..! Plus, i'm still in school, whereas he's got a job!
6 years seems like a lot to me, especially as we're living completely different lives.... what do you think?
thanks for all the advice, guys: I really appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): It is not that big of a deal with the whole age thing. personally I am dating a man 8 years my senior and it is the best relationship I've ever been in. The one thing you should consider is maturity on either side. Like any relationship it could work or it could not. it's up to you to decide whether or not you want to take the chance.
All in all just be careful, talk to him and get to know him first, then if you two hit it off go out on a date, and let life progress on its own. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): Girl go for it if you don’t try you will always wonder, right just keep your gueard up don’t get hurt and no matter what happens remember that you are a unique being, and that life is full of learning curves don’t do anything you are not ready for and don’t let anyone pressure you into doing anything K
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): sweetie u only live once, go for it, u may regret it. Age is nothing but a number. Keep an open mind to prevent you getting hurt, have some boundaries. Wish u luck, wish i was 17 again!!!
take care xxx
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