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writes:i have been sick recently and had to do surgery, going through that i think about becoming a christain. my b/f and i was trying to have a baby before i got sick but we hold off after i found out i was sick so we decide put off trying having a baby until i got better. So i asked my b/f i am thinking about becoming a christain and need a baby so what will happen to our relationship? That will mean we have to get married before we have a baby. my b/f said he don't know how to work it out, he don't know, he don't want anyone to pressure him into marriage to have a child. after a week of diliberating we keep going over the issue over and over again. it became a topic every time we talk. I don't know what to make of it. then all of a sudden he stop coming by me, stop communicating, i have to call him and ask him whats going on. then he told me he aint ready for marriage, and he don't feel the same about the relationship. its about 40 something percent right now. its frustrating to me. i have to do therapy in a couple of months and i am depending on him to be there for me. i love him despite what the relationship is going through, he used to fight for the relationship at one point now its like i have to fight to keep the relationship. so he told me he was staying away so i can do the right thing and be on the right path to becoming a christain so eventually i will forget about him and the relationship will fade. but how does one forget the person they are in love with and have a serious relationship with? things are very complicated right now. i don't know what to do. if you are in a serious relationship and want to become a christain do you forget about the person? i told my b/f lets have a baby because of my age 36 (my first child) seeing he aint ready for marriage as yet and then get baptiste. one minute he will be for it the next he will say what will be the consequences, what if i lose the baby, what if i lose my life, and what if something happen to him as a result of not doing whats right. he says i decide to get baptiste and now i change my mind and what will happen if you don't put god first against everything else. please help christains, non christains what do you think?. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): he is not ready for a serious relationship
no you do not have to forget about the person although some very intense christians would probably disagree they dont think about the fact that you love him
yeah you are supposed to put god first...
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