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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating someone (lets call him J) for about 2 maybe 3 weeks, and it hasn't made progress yet. Before I started dating J,I was hooking up with a guy( lets call him M) I knew from high school, but stopped since I thought that me and J was about to get serious. So M had expressed that he is interested in being a relationship (along with hooking up) and that he was interested in seeing me. I have been putting off seeing M because I was really interested in J, but things aren't progressing with J like I expected and we haven't had the "Talk" about weather or not we want to be in a relationship with one another. And honestly, I'm kind of afraid to because I don't want to scare him off or hear something that I don't want to hear. J and I barely text due to him expressing that he doesn't like to have to speak to someone every minute of everyday, which is understandable. But I would like to at least have a conversation with him over text so I could attempt to get to know him. When we do text, he takes at least an hour or even more to respond, which kind of irritates me. I guess thats the reason why I feel like this isn't going anywhere and why I'm afraid to say or ask him anything. But, M at least makes an effort to respond to my text messages and does talk to me. Is it wrong to hook up/ start dating with M while dating J? Any advice on what to do? I'm so lost.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (21 April 2015):
Yes perfectly okay...As long as you don't mind a guy dating you and another woman at they same time. You don't mind right?
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (21 April 2015):
 I think I would just forget about J and date M. You are interested in J's potential about nothing is happening. Not talking regularly is a sure way to show disinterest and for you to lose interest. If you waited for J then he finds out you were hooking up with M before, that's when he shows interest and gets irritated that you couldn't have waited for him.
I like doing one on one because dating more than 2 would give me a headache. Technically there is no right or wrong because there is no exclusivity talk. I just prefer being straightforward. The one you pick with certainty would feel special too, rather than an option, an item you pick like at a store. It's not good to start a relationship with wishy washyness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2015): Give us a little more information about J. Age? His past relationship, is it over/how long since? Have you 2 slept together yet?
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