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female
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36-40,
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writes:Hi,There is a guy whom I meet on training and at the end of the training we have a party and we meet there suddenly we separate with out exchanging address I was just thinking about him and rely upset for not having his address. Next day after the party I found a friend request and it was him I was so happy and wondering that he also thinking of me and searching a way to meet me, I accept and we chat and exchange our number, he call on night and talk for more than 4 hours, then after two day he ask me if we can have a dinner and we talk, all he talk was about his plan, to get marry soon and have family, I told him I have that plan too, so he told me we can take time to get know each other and if things go well we gonna merry, I rely like him he is a kind of person I like even to hear when they talk, we have so much in common, that was what wonders both of us, when we walk to home I told him that there are things that he must know about me, I told him I used to have BF and have a kid but my BF betrayed me after a year, and he say it's ok it means nothing and at that night I call him just know his feelings and he again told me he was just feel something when I told me because he never think I have a kid but it is ok, the main thing is that the understanding and comment things between us. But after 2 days we meet on face book then I feel he just didn't want to meet and ask about that he say we can meet and enjoy but he was wrong to talk about marriage with me I shouldn't have to kill my time and this is only because I have a kid, (My kid lives with my parents) It rely hurts me , I rely like this man I can't believe we can't be together cuz I have a kid who live with my parents but I 100% sure this man is telling me the true reason. And he told me we can be best friends .I just unfriend him from Facebook delete his number, next day he calls and ask me about a flash memory who have virus I was serious and angry with short answer I feel from his voice he is confused cuz I used to talk with him with a smile and happy. He told he will call me later I hug the phone with out say bye, it's been 1 day since he call but he didn't call. I'm rely confused I rely like this man and still need to be near him and listen to his talks but I'm angry on the way he thinks about single mothers, what shall I do is there any way he can change his mind, way of thinking? Is there any thing I can do? or just let him go?Can you let me know your thoughts please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2014): My sister in law has been divorced twice, has an adult child from another man, then an adult child from her first husband and two small children from her second husband. She got involved with another man after her second divorce, but he told her he didn't like kids, so she ended it, although it was painful for her to do so. The guy was 10 years older than her, but didn't want the kid responsibilities at his age.I am engaged to a man that has a disdain for stay at home moms since his first wife duped him and refused to work after they had 2 children. That bothers me because when I was married (I'm a young widow) I would have loved to have stayed home if I was able to have any children. His view is tainted of women now because of his experience with his first wife.I'd say, move on, because you have a child, he isn't ready to give you that level of commitment when a child is involved. Your child comes first even if the child is living with your parents.
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reader, babalou  +, writes (11 November 2014):
 It doesn't sound like he dislikes single mothers, but he is not ready to be with a woman that has a child because even though your child lives with your parents, the child is still your responsibility and a big part of your life. He may not want to be anything similar to being a father to a child yet. Many people are not willing to date people with children. It sounds like he doesn't want to take your attention away from your child and he feels that you should be more concerned with your child that with dating guys when the child is so young. He wouldn't feel comfortable with going out and hanging out with you if it is time that you could be spending with your child.
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