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writes: A simple question. I am a 32 year old boderline virgin( 2 drunken one night stands) and also an incel* who has never had a girlfiend. I am also a terciary educated picker and packer who hates his job of course and hence will not discuss it(another problem I can not get out of blue collar work into white collar because I lack experience.Basically is my status a turn off to women. Thanks [editor's note]* incel = "involuntary celibacy", see herehttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Involuntary_celibacy
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reader, unexperienced +, writes (18 April 2006):
unexperienced is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never thought about dancing that way, I guess your right. I do it to show off and aviod drinking when partying in the evening, I just dont get a chance. Anything other than the dancing is secondary. Thanks for the dimensions, just have to find a decent gym, I will join the uni one when I go full time again.
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reader, harshbutfair  +, writes (18 April 2006):
 I think it sounds like you're on the right track.
You need to meet women in a "friendship" environment and let things progress from there. Dancing events like salsa can be tough for guys and it's almost like speed dating with dancing.
Try more "activity" based clubs like walking or climbing. Maybe even join your gym and go to some of the classes like yoga and pilates. As long as you're not a perv you'll find that many of the chicks will find it interesting and you can strike up conversation.
If you give up, you'll never get anywhere. Just keep pressing on and trying new things, new situations and new social groups. One of them will stick and as girls get more used to seeing you around and comfortable with talking to you, being friends... romance will follow.
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reader, unexperienced +, writes (18 April 2006):
unexperienced is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo tell you the truth I am studying law which I figured out is my ultimate interest and that my last degree was a waste of time, so I know about the big picture. I just have to figure out my niche which I have not done yet. I have grown up in a male dominated environment(work and Rugby) and do not know how to relate, talk or even approach a woman even at latin dancing and establishing freindships has been dificult.
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (18 April 2006):
Ok. The answer is "no".
It has nothing to do with your lack of experience. It has everything to do with your negative outlook on life and lack of confidence.
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reader, unexperienced +, writes (18 April 2006):
unexperienced is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwith all due respect I need an answer, yes or no.
Status means situation - does inexperience matter in terms of sexuality
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (18 April 2006):
No.
There are two reasons, both interlinked.
ONE: You have no confidence whatsoever
TWO: You have "excusitis" - rather than seeking solutions to the problems, you are looking for excuses and explanations for why you don't have a good job and lack a partner. This is of no help to you.
Fix number ONE and number TWO should be brought into check. Serious advice... Read "The Magic Of Thinking Big" and apply those principles to your life.
Good luck
HBF.
PS. You think all chicks are interested in status? Think again! Some of the hottest girls I know are dating blue-collar guys.
PPS. You "lack experience" yet claim you can't get your foot in the door. Well how do others do it? You're not different or "unlucky". Start thinking. Offer to work for free. Help out. Pound on doors. Pick up the phone. Buy a franchise. Anything! Get the action habit and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
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