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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: I have been going through a lot. I have been fighting with myself. My mind never stops thinking. I am always worried about the next step. What is going to happen next.How will I get there. Can I get there. Am i smart enough. im too stupid. Why am i not making things happen for myself?? Why do i complain?? why am i in a situation where i know im not happy but continue to live with it. why am i hurting the people around me when those weren't my intentions, why am i forgetting about important things that need to get done, or needed to be done years ago. why have i not pushed myself hard enough. why do i feel so sad sometimes. there is always something. I dont know how to prioritize, i dont know how to follow my dreams, i am scared of people even though i put on a face as if im confident, i feel low and not good enough yet i know how lucky and beautiful i am, and that i should thank god and my parents every single day... but i dont... because i am too self absorbed in my thoughts. i know i am a good person with a good heart. i just need to know how to balance my life. i need to know how to balance my friends, my family, my goals, hobbies, interests all at the same time. I dont know how to do that, and something always going wrong, no matter how hard i try to avoid the bad habits. i just dont know how to balance anything!!!! I dont know how to prioritize. I know all of that sounds like, i am complaining about everything in my life. And i do not want to sound like i am not out to do anything about it. i am. everyday i wake up, and try and push myself to be a better person. and by doing that, i write lists down, i try and accomplish tasks that need to be done. I want so bad to succeed but I dont know why i cant seem to go after it. i fail to do whats most important to least important. i dont know why so much time has passed and i feel like i am back to square one. back where i was 5 years ago, where nothing was going right. I want to forver be strong woman, i want to have courage and have confidence, and to have constant motivation, hunger, desire, passion to after what i love and what makes me happy. I want to have the confidence to walk into a room, or an interview and know that I am worth it. I also wish i could stick up for myself more in a fight or an argument. I want to tell the people who are close to me, that they mean so much to me and i would do anything for them. Also, too forget about myself and my needs and wants and to stop being selfish and to think of others too. How do i get myself and my mind to be focused and do and accpmplish and become that person that I want to be? How do I get my mind into that good place? The problem is, there are actual times where i can get my mind there, and once I get there and feel confident and motivated... a day passes, or a distraction occurs and I lose that sudden hunger, train of thought, and motivation. i can't live like this anymore. I need help!
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 hi
you seem like the sort of person who wants to get everything done and ends up getting nothing done. take more time to think, about one thing at a time. learn to relax, just in your own company or if you find this just makes you restless, take up a more structured form of relaxation, such as yoga?
eat properly, drink enough water (really clears the mind!) and get out doors as much as you can, take long walks to give yourself quiet thinking time and to work off some of the nervous energy you seem to have, this will also get your endorphins going, to combat stress. stress is a precipitant and feeder of negative thoughts. take quiet time in the day to be thankful about the good things in your life (i don't mean material things) plan your life day to day, after all we live day to day, you wouldn't expect yourself to complete a lifetimes achievements in just one day, so why waste time trying to think about and plan them all in the same day? like the proverb: how can you eat an elephant? answer: in small pieces
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