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writes:I know this question is often asked, but I'm sick of being the match-maker, or the 'friend'. I'm told by lots of my female friends that I'm really pretty, and nice. I'm not bitchy, or fake or anything like that.But I never get boys. I'm always the one doing the match making. Don't get me wrong, I love it when my two friends get together, I just wish that I could have someone match-make me, or just go out with me. Preferably one of my guy mates, because they are the boys i'm closest to. I'm really quite shy, and I know this could be why I've not got a boyfriend, but I need help on improving my confidence, AND with the afore mentioned matter!Please help.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): Hi you sound like you are a really unselfish mate doing all the matchmaking for your pals however maybe its time to look out for yourself as well,
Maybe if you acted a little more myserious and not like the bubbly nice girl who gets her friends dates thats a lovely side to have still show this but maybe get a book or somthing as well have your own time enjoy you own company as well this facinates lads dont be so accomidating and meet lad mates at the drop of a hat if it clashes with somthing else your doing to please yourself
this may make the lads see you diffrently and think wow shes sucessful and then you will look pretty in there eyes they will notice you more you wont just be there relieable friend you'll be a young women in her own right but I will leave it with you hope this has helped you frm Ditzy Blonde Chick
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reader, Beckah +, writes (16 October 2006):
 haha deja-vu. The truth is, i haven't got an answer for you, i just understand exactly how you feel. If it makes you feel any better my mum once told me; lads are friends with girls that they can repect, and sleep with the girls that they don't. You don't say how old you are, so i can't give you much information about this, but all i can suggest is that you be patient. If your anything like me, your self conscious because you don't get the attention your friends get and you feel shy because no body gives you that attention to improve your confidence. When i go clubbing (without sounding big headed) along with a few of my friends, i always get chatted up, that for me is not the issue, but i get far more attention now than i ever did. Infact more than my friends do, which is surpising because i find them prettier. My advice is never to change your personality, you are who you are and if your lad friends can't appreciate that then at least they don't want to use you. I was known as the 'funny girl' so i was looked upon as the 'girl mate' never anything else. Now i have a lovely boyfriend who loves me for what i am, and i'm happy. Maybe you are just a late bloomer like i was...
Hope i've helped, if you wanna message me feel free and i'll talk more in depth with you..
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