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*ookie93
writes:There is this guy that i met a year ago and i fell in love with him so deeply. We never really dated officially, but shared a lot of experiences, traveling together to Paris , and I have amazing memories with him. We go to the same Uni, but he is about to finish. First I couldnt wait for him to finish so that I don't ever have to see him again, because he was really a big ass to me. Now the idea of him leaving the uni and me probably never seeing him again doesn't comfort me. Am I still not over him? Last week I said hello to him to the first time after a very long time but it seemed like he also wanted to say hello and talk to me. We just had a bit of small talk but he asked if I was gonna be at the career fair at uni next week... The thing is I am starting to kind of understand why he treated me the way he did. Not everything of course, a lot of things were just bitchy but I slowly see why because I put myself in his position. I've been fighting against my feelings for a very long time, he is the last guy i ever kissed since 9 months. Right now i just feel like stop using my mind. I should hate him. I should not even care about him leaving the uni. My friends hate him. My family hates him. There was a time in which I really really hated him too. But somehow I always reach the point again in which I'm ready to forgive him everything... Isn't that stupid? Right now, I want to send him a message and ask him, if he would like to go to my friends senior prom with me. Means I would show up with him in public, in front of my friends, my old teachers... everyone. But I would love that so much and i don't care about anyone's opinion even though I know how wrong that is! It is all extremes. Either I hate him or I love him. He brings all extremes out in me. Strong strong emotions and feelings. Please help. I just need an opinion from someone who is not a friend of me. Any friend would say that I'm an idiot and I shouldn't even think about him. Please please help.
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reader, Cookie93 +, writes (10 May 2012):
Cookie93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you a lot aunt honesty i think that you are very right!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 May 2012):
 Your friends and family have your best interests at heart, you say yourself he did not treat you very well, but you had strong feelings for him so you let him do this, but those closest to you saw what he was doing to you and they do not want you to be treated like this. Off course it is up to you who you want to go to the prom with, but he never treated you very well and he may do that again, do not ever let a guy use you or be horrible to you. I think it might be best off if you hold of until he leaves uni and your life and then concentrate on moving on from him, because it sounds like he is no good for you. Hold out for a guy who will respect you, commit to you and make you feel special.
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