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writes:is it alright if i am 17 going on 18 in november and im going out with a 13 going to be 14 in dec. because i think she is worth it but i dont know what to do please i need help. and my parents are telling lies to break up with her and they say that her dad hates me please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (23 July 2007):
 age dosent matter, but it always comes up with a huge deal of responsibility, if you truly love her, then go for it, but as long as sexual relationship is concern, think deeply about it first, she's too young for this. eveyone has the right to be romantically involved with somebody no matter how huge the age gap would be, just make sure that you would not take her for granted.
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (22 July 2007):
 I dont see the age difference being wrong, my friends 14 and her boyfriend is 18, yet then again i think he uses her for sex, as long as you dont have sex with her, nothing can happen to you and nothing can touch you. xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): You are in the USA and can get thrown in jail for any acts of sex with a minor. You are a minor yourself! I'm not assuming that you two are having sex but it is the very first thing parents will think. Her father doesn't want you around her because all he is going to think about is his baby girl having sex at too young of an age with a guy. No man wants ANY OTHER MALE to ouch his daughter. A father will kill to keep his daughter safe and out of the hands of people who just want to use her.
It is not okay to be in this relationship. You two are not mentally matched and i dont care what other posters say she is too young to be with a guy your age. You are in high school and she is still in middle school. Your school groupings are still years apart.
Dating is SUPPOSED to be used to start that final process of being with the man or woman a person loves. If you have no end goal with dating this girl and it lead to marriage then let it go. You already have a parental fight on your hands.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): Age sure in hell does not matter man.my dad remaried another lady, theres a 21 yr age differece. there is nothin wrong wit ur situation. its love man, thats all i can say!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (21 July 2007):
 Ok you are an adult and she most definately is still a child so i can see why your parents have an issue with it, but that is pobably only because they are worried about you and what could happen if you were to take things to a sexual level with her, once you are both adults i don't think that there is a problem with any age gap but when one party is still a child then i think you need to be very careful.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (21 July 2007):
 Of course of your and her would be worried if a 14 year old was going out with a 18 year old.
As if anything sexual happened you would get in alot of trouble which is your parents worry. Her parents would be worried as there little daughter is going out with a man (when your 18). If your really do like her and are willing to go through the trouble you can wait until shes the legal age, depending on your state.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): Firstly it isn't illegal for you to date this girl as long as you don't sexually involved with her. Secondly how do you know that your parents are making it up that her dad hates you? I wouldn't be surprised if that was the truth actually because most people see it like this: if a 17 year old guy is going out with a 13 year old they are only after one thing from the relationship whether that is true or not. Plus your parents don't like the thought of their son going out with someone much younger than them. I think that you should go out with girls your age and the same for her.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (21 July 2007):
 Normally 4 years is not a great deal, it is however when the girl is coming up 14, and you are almost 18. Your parents are obviously worried about you dating this girl because if anything sexual were to happen you could find yourself in alot of trouble.
If you really like her i would wait a couple of years, at least untill she is over the age of consent.
Good luck
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reader, bovvalicious +, writes (21 July 2007):
 age shouldnt matter as long as you both like each other. My parents have an age difference of 9 years so its not that bad. just dont do anythin she doesnt want you to. the age shouldnt matter if you both love/like each other!good luck x x
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