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age
36-40,
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writes:It's taken me awhile but I am totally lonely. My friends all have boyfriends that they moved in with and I feel like the black sheep because my relationship went sour. Everyone's was going in a direction but mine and right when we were supposed to move in we broke up but all of their boyfriends committed.Now they are consumed with their live in boyfriends and I live alone in a city I'm not familiar with. No one comes to visit me and I haven't made any friends. Its hard enough surviving the heart break of the ending of my two year relationship but the lack of contact with people is making me feel like I'm going to break. I don't know what to do. There aren't clubs for me to join or activities that I can participate in because of my work schedule and my dog that needs to be walked 3 times a day or she'll go on my floor (small dog).Please say anything to help comfort me. Anyone go through anything similar?
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reader, Lib1 +, writes (25 December 2008):
Lib1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question That was very mean and unnecessary. "No wonder you have no friends" why would you write that?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (24 December 2008):
 Hello, my darling.
I know how you feel. I live across the country from all my family and friends. I got STUCK out here (in a nutshell: one of my best friends was moving out here and asked me to come with her for a month or two and get adjusted. I was the older one, so I put my name on an apartment lease. She chickened out and went home, ABANDONING me with a year lease on an apartment in a city I didn't even want to move to!! (un)Fortunately, I met a guy, fell in love and three years later I'm still here and with the guy. He just got me a puppy to keep me company, since I'm so lonely... we do have a lot in common, huh?)
It's been three years and to be honest, life has not gotten a ton better. I yearn for home 24/7. What has helped me get through the days - definitely taking the dog out for long, long walks and what was REALLY the greatest was SCHOOL. Suddenly when you're really bored and lonely, school is the most awesome place EVER. Thank God for the internet, that's how I stay in contact with all of my buddies.
Another great way to connect is to visit http://www.craigslist.org and make an ad in the "Strictly Platonic" section and make some friends that way!
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reader, Lib1 +, writes (24 December 2008):
Lib1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo offense but can someone over 20 years old answer my question? Someone who has moved out on their own.
My friends all moved far apart after college and yes obviously I have asked them to come visit me but they are consumed with their boyfriends so even me visiting them interrupts that.
I just want to hear from someone that knows what I'm feeling when they were out on their own but got through it. PLEASE? ANYONE?
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reader, secondend guessing love +, writes (24 December 2008):
 well i may only be 11 but all my friends have boyfriends that live here and there alwas hanging out with them and if i hang out with them i feel like a 5th well so if i were you id just call them and ask them to come over and hang out o and about your boy friend theres good fish and bad fish just throw your hook back in the water and you will catch a good one
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