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writes: I have never had sex, or even masturbated. I have tried but I cant. For awhile I was scared to look at my genitalia but I am slowly getting over that fear, I still cant look at it freely. I know the body is a very beautiful gift but for some reason im afraid to "explore" down there. I cant even tiuch myself there unless I have my underwear on. So what can I do to get over this fear? How can I masturbate safely? Will it hurt? Where exactly is the vagina? Everything looks the same to me when I look down there. Am I weird for feeling this way? Please help...Thanxxx Peeps!
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reader, demmie  +, writes (8 September 2010):
there is nothing wrong with touching yourself and no it doesnt hurt just use your hands to gently rub yourself once u are used to that u could try slowly putting a finger inside but only use fingers dont use anything else
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 The "little Penis" is your clitoris. It's the small pea sized bump at the very beginning of your labia in the centre. It's sometimes refered to as that because if you cross cut female genitalia the clitoris is shaped similarily to a penis. Your clitoris is very sensitive and if you rub it gently with the tip of your index or middle finger it will feel very pleasurable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy mother never talked to me at all about sex or masturbation so I pretty much have learned about it on my own [and from the people on this website], I think its one of the reasons why I feel so uncomfortable with body. Also what is the thing that I think I have heard many people refer to as a "little penis" on a woman? Its like the first thing you feel when you put your hand down your pants. Does this make sense? Sorry if its confusing...
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 To explore things take one of those handheld mirrors, spread your legs a little, stick the mirror between your legs and tilt it to where you can see your area. Then proceed to check out what you have, to find your clitoris spread your vagina a bit and it's at the top of the flaps(lack of better word here) kinda tucked in. Once you find it then you can start to stimulate it with your fingers, just rubbing it gently back and forth..it will start to become sensitive to the touch. Keep on doing that, stay relaxed while doing so, until you feel like you have to pee(but you really don't have to pee) that's an orgasm, you'll feel a little wet. Another thing I did was check out my dad's stash of Playboys those girls in the magazine show a lot of their downstairs and not everyone's looks the same. It's rather interesting. It's ok to touch yourself everyone does it, and those who say they don't are lying.
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (7 September 2010):
No you are not weird. Parents often send conflicting messages to children about masturbation because when kids are little and do it they are told not to and not to be rude. Your mother probably said things like that to you as a child not meaning to make you feel like that but sending you a message that's its dirty, rude and disgusting to play with yourself. You just need to take it slowly with yourself. Check out the website that married lady posted and set yourself some little goals e.g I'm going to look in the mirror at my vagina and not feel uncomfortable and scared. When you achieve that goal set a goal to touch yourself without underwear on (in the shower is a good time to do this) and so on.
You are ok sweet know that and know that there is nothing wrong with you at all!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (7 September 2010):
Hi there. There is nothing to be ashamed of or scared of about your genitals. It's all perfectly normal.You have to touch your genitals when you are in the shower to wash and clean yourself, so that's a good time to experiment with what feels good and what doesn't. Try the soapy water which will act like a lubrication, so it won't be uncomfortable or painful.When you feel around there, around the clitoris which is just below the pubic bone at the front, this produces some tingly feelings. These tingly feelings will start as very gentle and increase more and more over a few minutes. With enough stimulation, this will increase to a full orgasm. An orgasm is centred around the clitoris and radiates to the lower abdomen, almost up to the belly button and back towards the spine through the core of your body. Just try it, it is quite a pleasant feeling.The vagina is just in front of the anus (the opening to the bowel). To see this, you will need to sit on the bed with a mirror to be able to see it. In front of the vagina is another opening called the ureter (for passing urine).Just be gentle with yourself and experiment. It's a very good way to get to know your own body.Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (7 September 2010):
 You're not weird at all!!! The vagina is outside (the entrance to the inside of your body) and inside (the birth canal when a woman is pregnant). It might help you to read a few books. Go to a bookstore, look up a few illustrated medical textbooks-this will be an educational way to learn about the female body and how it functions (and they'll be no embarassment involved). Nothing too gross or awkward. American Girl also has a book out about this thats more fun/easy to read but not at all inapropriate :) Take your time, it's good that your taking this exploration slowly. Eventually, you'll be ready to do more at your own pace. Basic female masturbation occurs through stimulation of the clitoris (the bud-looking organ at the very top). Usually, touching/rubbing the clitoris results in sexual climax (orgasm). Again, it's good to take things very slowly. There's no rush, ok? Knowing your body is a good thing, but it's better when done at a pace that's comfortable for you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): No you arent weird, you have a natural curiosity that is good. You should take your time, become comfortable with your exploration, and your body. You will learn what feels good and what doesnt.
try this link..it has a lot of information for teens. Questions and answers about almost anything...information about your body, about masturbation....
http://www.scarleteen.com/
good luck sweetheart. mal
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