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writes:Hey. I need some serious help. I want to tell the boy I like that I like him, but i'm way too afraid of rejection. I'm afraid if I tell him I like him and he says he doesn't feel the same, that things will then be akward between us from then on. One of the less-respected boys in my class once asked one of the popular girls out and everyone laughed at him. I'm in no way popular, and the boy I like talks to everybody. So I don't know what to do. Every time i want to talk to him I chicken out. What can make me feel a little more at ease to talk to him, and if rejection happens i can just accept it? Cuz right now it's just way too hard. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): Remember the worst thing that can happen is him to say no. I would go 4 it. U have nothing to lose. U can just be considered as good friends. If he does turn you down, keep on looking for someone even better 4 u
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reader, PractiGal  +, writes (10 July 2008):
 Try reversing the roles and see if that makes your options a bit clearer. Think about it this way: What if a guy you didn't know very well suddenly declared that he "liked you", and his hopeful expression let you know that he wanted you to say the same thing back to him? What if you didn't feel that way? What could you say, and still be nice about it? How could you NOT hurt him? And, even if you *did* feel like you liked him back, could you say that, to his face, right then, just because he wanted you to?I think that you need to go carefully here. As much as it might feel good to YOU to express your feelings to him, you could be putting him on the spot, and generating the very awkwardness between you that you're hoping to avoid. Even if he's a really nice guy, he might not know how to respond to your statement, or he might do so badly, and that could lead to unhappiness.What I suggest you do instead is to ~show~ that you like him and let him get used to that idea on his own terms, in small amounts, over time. Be friendly, smile when the situation allows it, make small talk, and find out a little something about him that you might have in common. He might like a particular author, or follow a sports team that you can investigate. Maybe he's in a club that you have an interest in. Knowing that would give you something special to talk with him about, and help make you both more comfortable just talking. Declarations of affection can come in their own time.When someone's actions say "I like you", it's often much more exciting than someone's words.Hope that this helps!
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reader, caitlin_breanne101 +, writes (10 July 2008):
 well now...
i would try to ease into it.
regardless of both of your social standings within your classes...you shouldnt let that bother you.
if you like him, so be it.
take a chance.
yeah, the outcome might be bad...
but would you rather be made fun of for a day,
or rejected...
than spend the rest of your life wondering what could have been.
by easing in to it, i mean that you should come up with some sort of conversation starter...
like tell him you passed him the other day on the way to walmart...
something like that.
get what i mean?
anything to start a simple, friendly conversation.
from there, see how well he opens up to you...
like does he blow you off, ignore you...
or carry a conversation back?
and so on.
if things seem as if they are going well...
then go for it.
shouldnt be as hard then.
do whatever your heart leads you to do,
regardless of what everyone else thinks, hun. =]]
*hope i helped.*
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