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writes:hey i am 14 years old and i am really afriad to have sex because i am afriad that i will get cought and plus im agfraid that it is gonna hurt really bad.and that people is gonna call me a slut,whore (ect)but most of all ...my friend is 14 and she is pregnate.what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 December 2008):
 The other aunts have given you good answers on the sex thing. Were you asking what to do about your pregnant girlfriend? First of all, you are not responsible for her pregnancy or her problems, but you can be supportive of her. Has she told her parents yet? That needs to happen pretty soon, it's going to come out eventually and I think the worry about telling is worse that what actually happens when the parents find out. Of course they'll be upset and disappointed, but I'll bet they love their daughter and will do what they can to help her and support her.
So you stop worrying about having sex, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do, and if someone is forcing you, tell a responsible adult, like your parents, a teacher, your minister, an aunt or your grandmother, or a close neighbor. If you feel you are carrying the burden of your friend's pregnancy, I think you could tell your mother about this too. Moms have been through pregnancy, after all, and they love their children and they will love their grandchildren too. I know that sometimes moms might not exactly understand their teenagers, but you know what? They were teenagers once too, and most of us remember what it feels like to be that age. It's hard, there are so many pressures and worries. What I've learned over the years is that my mom was there for me whenever I needed her, even at times when I didn't realize it. And she was pretty smart, although I didn't fully understand that at the time.
So please talk about these worries you have to the adult that you think you can trust. I hope it's your mom!!!
Take care.
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reader, confuzion01 +, writes (5 December 2008):
eey,well hi im 14 and i have a friend who had a baby at 15,(she was 14 when it was concived)but anywayz i say just go with the flow if your in a relationship.but if your not dont just skrew any dick u see.im just saying wait.i mean sex is just sex in my mind.but alot of emotions come with it after words.so do wat im planning on doing and thats waiting till engagment or marrige.damn i know that feels like forever but hey dont you want to marry the first the only!!sounds fun but too damn long.i dont know whenever your ready!! Love,Deishia
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): Dear sweet girl, Don't let ANYONE talk you into doing ANYTHING that you don't want to do! DO NOT HAVE SEX!!! You already know the consequences, and you know WHY you don't want to do it. Now all you have to do is stand up for yourself and say NO!!! Besides pregnancy and the pain, there is the real possibility of sexually transmitted diseases and the feeling once you have done it that he will cast you aside and leave you feeling used and embarrassed and hurt. PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS until you are older. PLEASE!!!
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reader, LittleHelper16 +, writes (5 December 2008):
 My goddess hun! IF you are afraid then DONT DO IT !!!!!
I wud advise someone your age not to do it even if they thought they were ready, but since you are already afriad and you know what cud happpen I strongly urge you not to!
please please please don't go through with it . you will be ALOT happier. there is a time and place for everything and the time is not when you are 14.
and sweetness if someone is trying to pressure you then you really shouldn't do it. Don't do it because SOMEONE ELSE wants you to. thats not fair to you.
when you are ready you will know. You'll be with someone that loves you (and hopefully your married) and you will be alot less scared and it will be alot better I promise.
please take what I said into consideration
I know it's tempting. I'm 16 and I'm tempted to have sex almost everyday but I don't and I don't think you should either. you n't want to end up like your friend and you don't want to go thru your life regretting it either
I hope this helped you and I hope you really tink about it
I wish you the very best
GOD BLESS!
-K
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (5 December 2008):
 It hurts. And no you dont want to get pregnant, thats all there is to say. When you meet someone special in a few years time (i was 15 and married him at 18) you will be gentle together and face it together.
C xxxxxx
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