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writes:I pretty much fell for him and more than anything I at least want out friendship back. We were talking for 3 months. "summer romance" haha. Well over a month ago he started needing space. His best friend told me that he's afraid to get close to anyone. He was hurt pretty badly by his ex, plus his dad died last year. Well we didn't talk at all for three weeks, I tried a few times and didn't want to bug him and make things worse so I straight out asked him if he didn't want to be friends than to tell me that. I told him I cared a lot about him but if that's what he wanted okay. He wrote back and said he was sorry he'd been a jerk and he's just super stressed and can't deal with it. He said he just needs to get away for a while. Normally I'd think "jerk move". But I know he isn't seeing anyone else, and I know he is stressed. We have the same friends so I'd hear things. Still we aren't talking and it's been almost 2 months. I've never not been able to stop thinking about someone for this long.. I thought after not talking for a few weeks but no..I keep thinking that too much time has passed and a few more months are going to go by and there's no hope but maybe more time is what it needs? I have no idea.. I've never not been able to get over someone.
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 Yes, I'd have to agree with the previous poster. You say you're afraid to give him space because he might move on? He's not going to be more inclined to spend time with you if you keep the pressure on, I'm not trying to be harsh but he needs to sort out his feelings.
The death of a parent is not something that can quickly be healed and he's going to need lots of support from his family and friends. Just be there for him as he needs time to process his grief. Be a great friend and if something is meant to happen, it will.
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reader, badstringrunnner +, writes (15 November 2009):
if he needs space give it to him he may just need time to get things straight and if you two are meant to be itll happen trust me
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