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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating since October of 2008 and I love him to pieces. In March, I lost my virginity to him and I don't regret it at all. When it comes to sexual things, he's fingered me, we've had sex(regular and doggy style), he's touched my breasts, etc. But, here's the thing. Whenever we're making out, I wander my hands around a little, if you know what I mean. I really do want to give him a hand job but I've never done it before and I don't really..know how. He hints that he wants me to do it, he doesn't and has never pressured me into anything. This is something that I want to do but I'm afraid to and i dont know how. Any advice is helpful!
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reader, st-st-stuttastunna! +, writes (18 July 2009):
 I hav the same problem.
:/ this is a good question,
Mine wasn't this good.
:P
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reader, holikdad +, writes (9 June 2009):
First thing, make sure to use protection when you have sex. Too many young people are getting pregnant when they're not ready for the commitment. So use them!! They're easily found and there are plenty of Non-Profit Organizations that hand them out by the bag full for free.Ok, use lube like someone else suggested. If you're already having sex just use it as foreplay. You'll get the hang of it after a couple of times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): Agree with anonymous about lubricant - he'll never have needed to use it himself, but he'll probably find it quite a pleasant experience with it. I also agree with Finn about the absolute importance of not stopping at the critical moment. Unless you know your arm is strong enough to work on his member indefinitely, try to get yourself in a position where you can use both hands. Then if your right hand gets tired, you can take over with the left. And while your using one hand to work the shaft, you can GENTLY stimulate the crown with the other. Be careful with the urethral opening though - it's very sensitive and he'll probably find it irritating rather than pleasurable if you rub it. Ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): I'm very sorry to disagree with kellyxxx but it is NOT easy. Not wishing to boast but I have had many relationships down the years and ony a couple of girls really know what to do - it's amazing how many haven't a clue. kellyxxx IS correct in advising you to communicate - as a guy it would be a pleasure to direct! Be careful of chaffing the 'knob', get a good grip but frequently relax your grip while caressing GENTLY his balls or simultaneously, do so with the other hand. Whatever you do, when he's about to come, for God's sake - DON'T STOP!!!
All else I can say is, get plenty of practice in!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): Use a lubricant (baby oil, massage oil etc.). We men know just how tight to grip it because we've all been doing it for so long, but girfrlends often find it difficult to get just the right pressure, so sometimes it feels like your trying to pull it off, and sometimes there's not enough sensation. Baby oil and a nice slippery hand means that however hard you squeeze, your boyfriend isn't going to have that feeling that you're trying to pull it off.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (9 June 2009):
 You just move your hand up and down! Its easy! You could even ask him to show you, then you will know exactly what to do! Then you just have to work on how tight to grip it, he can alson show you this by gripping your finger, you just have to communicate with him. X
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (9 June 2009):
You just move your hand up and down! Its easy! You could even ask him to show you, then you will know exactly what to do! Then you just have to work on how tight to grip it, he can alson show you this by gripping your finger, you just have to communicate with him. X
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