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writes:Ok, My dad married a woman and they were married for thirteen years. I was raised with 2 step brothers over that span, whom i loved very much. The marriage ended badly, and i was 19 and my step brothers were 15 and 18 when it happened. I haven't seen either in 18 years until this last week.It was wonderful to see the youngest of the two again, but weird at the same time. We went out on the town and spent alot of time together this last week. He is now 32 and i am 38. There was a spark there that neither of us could deny and we acted on our feelings.Now, I am feeling strong emotional attatchment, as well as he is, and we don't know what to do with it.Neither of us know how to handle what has happened, we both want to act on our emotions, but don't know where to begin, given our past history.If we make a go of it, how will it affect our families? Anyone got any advice for me....I really need it right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your guidance. I really feel like I'm falling for him, but, if i do, how in the hell do we tell his mom and my dad? My father raised him from age 3 to age 16. This keeps getting harder and harder. But we are so in tune with one another, It is so completely weird!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): It's gonna be awkward, given that your father's and his mother's marriage ended badly. But that was a long time ago, and it's not like you guys are teenagers. You're going into this with your eyes open.
Love is a precious thing, and it's harder to find the older we get. So explore your feelings. There's no need to announce it to the world until you're sure what, if anything, you have together. And if it does turn out to be the real thing, it's hardly too much to expect that the rest of your family behave like adults.
I wish you the very best.
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reader, saabconvertable  +, writes (9 June 2009):
hi there. you are not blood relatives so i dont see a problem as long as you can and are willing to face people you need to together to tell them. go for it be happyxxxxxxxxxxxx
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