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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:some time ago i went to cuba to meet my family. there i meet a guy (his aunt is married to my uncle). we hit it off the second we meet. after that i went back to cuba a few times to see him and we have kept in touch. i have falling in love with him (this is funny because i have never like cuban men) our family in cuba and my mom knows we together and noone seems to care. my mom and me have talked about bringing over when i finish my last semester of college ( in dec. i'll be done) then after some time bring his kids. but i'm scared to tell my family that lives here. my dad and family on his side are not that understanding, i'm scared they are not going to approve of our relationship. should i wait to tell my family about him till he get here or should i get them ready ahead of time? what about if they don't approved of us? what should i do ? please help!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 May 2010):
 it would be interesting to know exactly why your father and his relatives would disapprove of your bf. Is it possible that there is something in this man's life which your father feels you are underestimating ? Drug or alcohol abuse ? Cheating on previous partners ? Chronic unemployement ? Anything that they would see like a red flag and you ,being in love, tend to dimiss ?
If it's just a personal dislike or a clash of personalities- go ahead, they'll get over it in time. You are 26 to 29 and your decisions do not have to please the entire world.
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