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writes:I am a sophomore in high school and I feel like I'm losing myself. All my relationships have been utter crap. I have had five relationships and through all but one of them I have been cheated on, abused mentally and physically, drugged, and all in all screwed over. I am still a virgin but I feel like I've been raped of all of my self respect, self worth, self image, and self esteem. All of the things I have done, I can't stop thinking about and regretting. But now that I'm single again I feel so lonely. I can't bring myself to get into another relationship because I think I have developed trust issues. I am petrified at the thought that everything I have already been through will relapse. I just want to be loved again but everyone I meet I think is just about to do something horrible to my body or my mind.What should I do?
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reader, ravencake +, writes (12 April 2010):
ravencake is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you to everyone who has answered. Its really helped me.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 April 2010):
I think your feelings of loneliness have been there a while and have lead you to guys who will hurt you. The problem with young men is that they're not all that great. Though the ones you have met have been truly shocking. Take a break from all relationships for now, and really focus on getting your confidence built up again, and addressing the issue as to why you are being lead to 'bad boys', as such. Look at your confidence, you're esteem and your happiness and really work on yourself so you're a strong girl who can make the right choices when it comes to work, friends and men. Focus on yourself for now.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 I think you should stay away from any relationship for awhile. Get to know more people and enjoy going out with your friends .
Find some new hobbies or interest to keep yourself busy
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reader, Inlovee:( +, writes (12 April 2010):
Hey, that sounds like an awful past you have had but its in the past now.
If you feel lonely maybe join a few clubs and socialize, make new friends, keep yourself occupied and don't think about being in a relationship at the moment.
If you do really want to be in a relationship, try getting to know someone for at least 6 months before any relationship, know them inside out and build up trust.
You deserve someone special in your life, dont let anyone walk over you, b strong hold your head up high and enjoy life.
Hope this helped?
All the best xXx
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