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writes:I don't know what to do. I recently started liking a guy from work. He became my friend and we talked and hang out together outside from work. He just got out of a bad relationship turns out his girlfriend cheated on him with his best friend and they all work at the same place. Only I work second shift with him and his xgf works first shift. Hes gonna change to 1st shift this upcoming week and is going to be working the same hours with his xgf. I like him and I don't want to!! I know he still has feelings 4 her but he says he cant take her back cause she cheated on him. I'm afraid he's just hanging out with me and flirting with me because he wants to stop thinking about her...but in the process i seem to like him even more...what should i do?? should i avoid him or keep talking to him??? Im just afraid i will end up in love with him and then he would go out with his ex and I end up hurt in the end...idk what to do...help!!!
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reader, Latino201 +, writes (7 November 2010):
Reality is, he is being very honest by saying he still has feelings for her. This is normal, what would you expect after a relationship with someone. The thing to do is keep talking, be in the game. He will see less of you, so he will probably miss you even more. Make those moments you see each other fun, flirt a bit but don't go overboard.. don't want to seem easy. If you know where he sits.. leave him notes, funny pictures, anonymous corny notes etc. If he seems to pay less and less attention. MOVE ON, you sound like a really nice young woman.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 I think its best to avoid him he has admitted to you that he still has feelings for his ex this is a clear sign from him to stay away. Dont ignore him just keep your distance and give it some time, you really dont want to be the rebound girl that he is using to get over his ex and even though she cheated on him it is very hard to fall out of love with someone because he never wanted the relationship to end. I think you need to stay clear before you end up heartbroken.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (7 November 2010):
This sounds really complicated. First of all, if this guy has any clue then he will not even thing about getting back with his ex. She cheated on him, that should be the end of it. Secondly, if he's still not completely over her then you definitely do not want to get involved with him. He's still on the rebound, so he is not emotionally available yet. Finally, dating at work can be messy in any situation, but in one this complicated it is probably a very bad idea. I suggest you distance yourself, and when he's back on 1st shift it should be easy to forget him.
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