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writes: me and my bf have been going out for a few months! weve known each other for years! and weve been best friends for about a year........we broke up once because he wasn't being a good bf......but 3 weeks later we got back together.....and things are sooo much better!! we really love each other! i mean weve gotten into some little fights but we always get over them and move on......and nothing changes because of them!! we tell we love each other all the time.....and i think we really do.......but we wont be able to see each other durring the summer all that much....and im really worried that our relationsip will go down hill.....neither of us wants that to happen.....also im going to camp for a month.....and theres lots of guys there..and we already talked about me not going out with anyone durring camp.......but im afraid that i will do somthing...and he will find out.....and i would get dumped!! i don't want that to happen cause i love him sooo much!! i mean im going to try soo hard not to do anything...but im still afraid!!what should i do?any suggestions on how to stay close during the summer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): If you LOVE him as you say, why would you sabotage the relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): Smiler gives good advice and I want to reiterate that, one's behaviours are always played out by their own 'choice'. Firstly, No one can make you cheat on your bf except yourself, hun. You do sound very young and very uncertain about what you want in a love relationship. All I can say is, if you are worried that you may be tempted by other guys at this camp, then you may not be ready for the serious commitment and efforts it takes to dedicate to a happy, solid relationship with your current bf. And guess what...it's perfectly okay to be this way. Especially,if you are a young, vibrant teen girl-exploring what life has to offer. Young people need to 'have fun' and date, safely and sensibly. It's a selection process and teaches young folk what qualities they want in a partner..when adulthood hits. If you are having doubts about your fidelity to your bf, then it's plainly obvious you need to experience life and have some time for self-discovery. Some people have a lot of living to do before they're truly ready to settle. They need to find their own rhythms, date a variety of people, develop new friends and interests, learn how to live, enjoy life but with care and respect for themself. What better opportunity to do this but at a summer camp. Dating,and making new friends are some of the ways young people learn who they are and what makes them unique. Aulthood and all the monumental responsibilities are just around the corner. You won't like this recommendation but I suggest you make a break with your bf and fly solo for awhile. Be honest with him as to why you want this. As hard as it is, I think it's only fair to you and him. Get out there and learn more about life and the more you practice, the better you'll get at making mature decisions about life, in the future. However, if you don't want to make the break from your bf, then go to this camp...meet new and wonderful friends but no matter how tempted you are...make a choice to NOT cheat and stay true and strong, to that decision. Cheating on your bf will just make you feel horrid about yourself. No matter what you do, just remember to think smart and be good to yourself. good luck and best wishes
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reader, Smiler +, writes (28 May 2006):
 Hey there,
well firstly without sounding to old here? old old are you sweetie you sound young to me in your letter... and i feel that maybe what you and your b/f are experiencing is very special to you if you love each other as much as you say you do and assuming he feels the same way you should not have a problem with the cheating side of things if you love someone deeply you should be able to remain faithful.... as for ways of keeping in touch you could phone or text each other daily you could write letters or emails to each other while you are a long distance apart but keep this saying in mind absance makes the heart grow fonder....
good luck hope i was helpful
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