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writes:Me and my bf have been together for 3 years, before our 2 years anniversary, a messed up situation occured between us and I know most relationships encounter this problem. It's not cheating, but we broke up and a friend of mine asked him to hang out with her and they kissed, and it really upset me. He told me about it, she lied and backstabbed and exposed all of my secrets to some of our other friends and I kept silent, long story short - we're no longer friends but my bf and I got together and we no longer communicate in any way with her and she's out of our lives...or is she?Recently she started to date my bf's childhood friend and they've been going steady for months now, my boyfriend and I were shocked, annoyed, upset, that his friend went out with her, considering he knows about what she's done. But weeks later, my bf is invited to hang out with this friend of his (who still hasn't told us that he's going out with the girl) and he takes the opportunity, what is going on?! I understand there's obviously a bond between them but am I the only one who thinks this situation is rather...messed up?! I'm not gonna deny that there's a part of me deep inside that would prefer if he just stopped communicating with his friend because there is, and you may call me an idiot for it, but if you were in my position perhaps you'd understand what I mean. I would never beg him not to be though because this is his CHILDHOOD PAL but I don't know if I can just sit here, shut up and just accept the fact that everyone's fine and dandy with everyone and what had happened or say something - but what else is there? I'm scared that they'll all be fine and all friends again, including my ex best friend and even if it has been a year, I don't think I'll ever be ready to reconcile our differences. I don't think I've forgotten what it was like to feel anxious and jealous and in general upset about the situation. Please help?
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reader, sweetest_sin +, writes (13 June 2011):
sweetest_sin is verified as being by the original poster of the question We found out because one of my friends who also knows this childhood pal (small area), saw them together and you're right. This is just all really odd for me right now, thank you everyone xx
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (30 May 2011):
 You cant stop him from seeing his best friend, really he hasn't done much wrong, he may have fallen in love with your ex best friend so you cant blame him and cant tell your boyfriend not to see him.You can however stick to your guns and say you don't want to be friends with her again, you don't need that kind of friend. Shes with another guy now so I think your boyfriend should be fine.Theres just one thing I don't understand:But weeks later, my bf is invited to hang out with this friend of his (who still hasn't told us that he's going out with the girl)well how do you know he is? And if he hasn't told you I don't think hes about to invite your boyfriend out and have that girl with him. I think youll be fine, but its his best friend, at least his best friend isn't the girl he kissed!
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reader, LittleMissy +, writes (30 May 2011):
If your boyfriend cares he won't go. This guy maybe a childhood friend but he doesnt sound like a very good or close one. You said you two were broken up at the time so technically he didn't cheat but they still both betrayed you. Find someone who deserves you
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): Talk to your boyfriend and tell him you don't feel comfortable with him going. Obviously, you can't tell him to not see his best friend, but you have every right to tell him you don't want him to see him whilst SHE is present. Just talk to him about it and if he doesn't understand why you don't want him to, then I think you should think twice about your relationship, because he shouldn't want to go if she's there anyway.
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