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writes:Im 25. Have been with my partner for 3 years. we met immediately after a messy breakup with my ex of 5 years - who was my first love but completely broke my heart. Im still in love with him but im also happy with my current partner. My ex called me yesterday saying he's still in love with me and wnats to make things work. My partner is proposing to me at the weekend. help. Im so confused.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Hi
You should take some time out to sort out your feelings. You shouldnt commit to your bf for the wrong reasons.You need to analyse your feelings for you ex and once you decided who you would rather be with then you can decide what to do.Also bear in mind that you ex has hurt you badly before and can very well do the same thing again but some people change and deserve a second chance.You should accept your current bf proposal as you would end up hurting him if you decide to be with your ex. You should weight the situation out (good and bad) and then decided who you would rather be with. Hope this helped.
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (30 October 2007):
 It's a bit of a bad situation really, thinking about the ex don't you think its a bit bad that it has taken him 3 yrs to tell you that he loves you and he wants you back? He broke your heart 3 years ago who says he wont do it again and do you honestly believe it could work second time round, after all the split was for a reason! If you ask me i think that you should move on with the new fella forget the old one its no good living in the past he had his chance and he blew it!!Good luck with it all and take care x
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reader, Trinny +, writes (30 October 2007):
 You can not get engaged if you are still in love with your ex. I would say you have make a decision either you want to be with the guy who are with now with now who as made you very happy for the past 3 years or go back to a guy who completely broke your heart. If you went back to this guy whats to say he won't break your heart again are you willing to take that chance. I would advise against it and stick with the guy who are with now. Just because you say you are in love with your ex does not mean you have to be with him. Forget about him and concentrate on the relationship you are in now and be happy. I hope this helps you, and i hope you choose the right one and i think that is the one who is going to propose to you. Good luck.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (30 October 2007):
 helloI would say do not bother getting engaged, you have been going out with this guy for three years, the other bloke just rings up and said he wants to make things work, and that confused you.If i were you i would give then both up and take a couple of years or so with psycho-analysis.
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reader, Mistify +, writes (30 October 2007):
 A broken cup is Never the same. It can be repaired but the scars will remain. Question is: Do you Really Love your soon to be Fiance? If the question is yes, then forget about this other guy. Tell him that it is time you both moved on. When one looks back on failed relationships, one always tends to look only at the good things, but we forget about the bad things. Those things that made the relationship fail in the first place. Move forward - Back is not the way to go.One last thing. If you are unsure about your current relationship, discuss this with your man, and maybe put the engagement on hold for a little while until you've cleared your head. If he loves you, he will understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): Well...its natural to feel confused, and dont feel alone because millions of women are going through the same sort of thing. Talk to your ex and say its been 3 years..how come he wants to make it work now when youve settled down? In my opinion i think you should stick with your new partner. Tell your ex that youve settled down with the man you love...say you still have feelings for him but its time you two should move on..Best of luck xP.S Leave me a comment and rate my answer and tell me how it goes. Good luck xx
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