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writes:I am a 19 virgin and going to lose my virginity to my bf soon. Heard that will feel some stretching in vagina. Is this stretching only felt in first few time or will I still feel it after sexually active? Is the stretching painful? How it is like?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2014): I think it is ridiculous to suggest that if someone is turned on then their first time having sex will not hurt. You might be lucky and not have pain but the majority of people do feel pain and it can be quite a lot of pain. But it does ease up as you continue.
Some people wait a few days or more before having sex again because it was painful and just to get used to it. But you don't need to wait to do it a second time unless you want to.
It may well hurt for the first few times having sex, not just the first. But it should be easier or stop hurting sooner after each time.
Please don't worry too much though! It's not too bad and it doesn't hurt at all for some people! Make sure you enjoy your first time.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 April 2014):
 If you're turned on then you wont feel any pain, most probably. But this varies so much from person to person. Some women are very tight down there, and then it doesn't matter how many times you have sex, it'll still hurt. I have a friend who never relaxes during sex, it always hurts. That's not how it normally should be, so if it continues to hurt and if it's very painful then you should see a doctor.
I have another friend who's very tight, and she said that if it's been some weeks between the times she has sex with her boyfriend, it will hurt again the next time they have sex. That she needs to have it regularly to "get used" to it again.
Then again, I have another fiend who didn't feel any discomfort at all when she first had sex, and she just went ahead and did it a second time as soon as the guy had his "rest" and was able to get it up again.
Me myself, I didn't feel much discomfort either my first time. It felt fine. Awkward, as I wasn't turned on, and weird.. sure. But not painful.
This varies so much from person to person that it is impossible to tell how it will be for you. The only way to get some idea on how it will feel is if you test it out. You could for example try to masturbate and figure it out that way.
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