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writes:I'm a 15-year old girl, and I have a problem. I'm completely obsessed with sex (sure, since I'm a teenager) and have decided that I'm absolutely ready to have sex now! The problem is, I am not at all attracted to boys my age (or even boys close to my age). I really can't be attracted to a guy unless he's at least 30 or older! I understand how absolutely illegal having sex with a guy that old would be, but I feel like there's no way I can wait! I am constantly turned on and my grades have started dropping because it's messing up my concentration (and don't recommend masturbation because I've tried it plenty and it provides only *very* temporary relief). Maybe this is an unsolvable problem, but any advice would be great.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): Don't have sex.
Its wrong, your underage and all these people who say
" Ohh have sex...bla bla bla." They are wrong.
You'll throw your life away and your youth, you'll regret it, trust me and you'll wish you never done it, your parents will somehow find out sooner or later, then you'll get in trouble, I know, One of my friends was crying on the phone to me because she got raped.
Don't do it.
Its your choice, but just think about it/
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reader, gothima  +, writes (10 January 2009):
Don't have sex.
I'm more-or less the same age as you.
Your underage and have not matured properly yet.
You just wanna throw your life away just like that?
Ok I admit, at the oldest I have been attracted to a boy 3 years older than me.
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reader, Kev-Irish  +, writes (27 December 2007):
Curb your enthusiasm. Wait 'till you are legal, believe me, although you don't realise it, you are all mixed up. You can save a lot of heartache, for you and some poor guy by waiting. Give boys your own age a chance to grow up and by then you will be an even more attractive person, mentally and physically. You will miss your youth when it is gone and mistakes in romance and sex are very difficult to reverse, put yourself ten years down the road if things go badly, legally, I know trying to switch off feelings is like trying to switch off Niagara falls but it's something you have to do. If you go ahead you will involve a large number of people, people who will still love you but who you will hurt. Think about it before giving in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): Our whole culture suffers from a mass delusion:
We all think that the people we are attracted to are the ones who will make us happy and we should go after.
Where is the basis for this idea?
Michael Jackson is only attracted to little kids.
So does that justify him going after them?
Is that in the kids' best interests?
Is it even in MJ's best interests to keep messing with little kids, regardless of the legality of it all? (Wouldn't he be forced to emotionally grow up a little by leaving the kids alone and only seeing more suitable partners?)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Have you been with boys your own age and feel they are not experienced enough?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): I can't believe people are giving you advice on here to have sex with older guys without getting caught! Disgusting! Go to counseling because you have some mental problems and stick to guys around your age. If a guy that much older mutually pursues you then he is sick in the head too! Sorry to be so blunt, but it's true. Get help.
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reader, AnnaW219 +, writes (18 November 2007):
 we all do that when we are teens we need to try it out but you want a guy thats had more practice dont just do it because you want it that aint the right step i was 12 when i first had sex that was because i wanted it so bad i go turned on and im telling you now it aint nice and a guy older that had sex with a young female would not like it if your a vigin im sorry if i affended you but its the truth go for a younger guy before you do it with an older one .
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): You will have to be careful here. You are under age for sex, you need to be 16. I can understand some girls getting attracted to older blokes because of the security, experience etc but i personally used to like blokes 6 years older, no more than. Any older and they didnt like the same things, music, clubs etc, cos they have already done that scene. And some of them have been married before with kids. You will have the ex factor with kids to contend with, yuk!!!!!!!!!They are still young enough to have a good laugh with and yet that bit older for the experience. You just go along with what you are happy with but be careful until you are over 16.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): Actually, your liking older males is common. Lots of girls and women only like men who are least 15 years older than they are. For whatever reason, they are attracted to the maturity and security they feel an older man has.
Were you close to your father or was your father present at all in your life? This may explain why you're only attracted to older men. Or do you sometimes find yourself sexually attracted to your friends' dads or uncles, male teachers or coaches at school, etc.?
There are a lot of men in their 30s who would gladly have sex with you, even though you're underage. But if your parents found out they would more than likely turn the guy into the police and his life would be ruined. If you decide to have sex with an older man, you both will have to keep it a secret until you are 17 or 18, whichever is the legal age of sexual consent in your state.
Do you know any single older men in their 30s that you would like to have sex with? You can always try flirting with them to see if they're interested. But be very careful that if you have sex with this man, that no one else finds out.
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