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writes:i am 20 i have been with her for almost two years now and i am beginning to like other girls but she says she is IN love with me. i dont want to break her heart but i dont want to keep going on like everything id okay. any ideas anyone? Reply to this Question
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (17 December 2008):
 You've got to be honest with her. The longer it goes on, the more you will resent her and become unhappy and trapped. Better to break it off now than a year down the line...Good luck x
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reader, Elisiance  +, writes (17 December 2008):
 I would hope that after 2 years, you could at least consider her a friend. Be upfront and honest, don't wait for an argument or try to start one to have a "reason" to break up. simply let her know that you are feeling that you are ready to start seeing other people and that the feelings you had at the beginning of the relationship are no longer there. If you never want to see her again, you can tell her that you think it's best that you not have any contact, that it will make it easier for both of you. If you would like to still have her in your life, tell her that while you aren't in love with her, you would still like to be a part of your life and that you just aren't the man for her. She deserves to have someone who is fully dedicated to her and that you just aren't on the same page.
The fact that you don't want to hurt her shows you still have feelings for her to some degree, just not romantic ones. She may get pissed off, or she may cry, will probably try to blame you for SOMETHING..just be understanding, but don't waver on your decision to move on. Just because you are breaking up, doesn't mean that you have to throw her away as a person, she was someone you spent time with and valued.
Empathize, understand and support her, her heart will be broken. You will be a better man for handling this in an upfront manner and she will be a better woman for your actions. Her pain will heal more quickly and she will feel less rejected than if she were to catch you out with someone or eyeing someone behind her back.
Hope this helps!
Elise
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 December 2008):
 The sister's right as rain, tell her you need to move on. Break up sshould be done like removing a bandaid fast and in one smooth movement. It hurts much less that way.
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