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writes: I dont beleive it can be true. Do nice guys really finish last?I have countless friends, because I never see the point of arguing and holding grudges. All the girls I am friends with come to me for relationship advice. I've been called 'a light in the dark' among other things, and I'm always there as a shoulder to cry on.Day in day out, I'm used to text messages or phone calls saying that someone's man has cheated on her, or left her, and I offer advice, I sit with a cuppa and I try and make her feel better.I play agony aunt to both genders of my friends, I dont talk behind backs, or stab people in the back. I won't tell a girl to leave her cheating man then tell him shes a slut anyway, I don't do that.I've spent about 3 years sorting out all my friends' problems, on top of my own, but in that time I've noticed that the guys are doing generally better that I am.The guys who dont give a s**t about her name, but how well she does in bed, they get all the women and I'm left with a whole clan of female friends who don't even consider me as a partner.Only once has consoling a girl led me to her bedroom and that was a drunken mistake, and we are both still friends. I'd never use a girl, try and be that rebound guy, I just want to be a good friend, but it seems to be getting me nothing extra than if I was a complete tosser.Is that what the world is coming to these days? Do nice guys really finish last? I just don't know anymore...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2006): Its because jerks know how to get girls, because they entice them. But i definitely dont advise to become an enticing jerk just for the ladies. I think its that people percieve you as a friend, and nothing more, they dont want to lose that relationship. So if you do meet someone new that you might be interested in, dont go for the 'just a friend' thing, but most definitely dont be too foward. Makes firends and then move on. But like one comment below me said, its hard to get that helper label off your record. But its not that nice guys finish first, its that you dont have that 'relationship lure' in you. If your interested in someone, you need to slowly change their perception of you.You sound like a friend of mine, and as nice as he is, Iv only once had a crush on him, but realized I really only liked him as afreind, and really, theres nothing wrong with that. Keep being yourself!
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (19 February 2006):
 Hi dearie, u r a really nice and matured guy. I dont believe nice guy finishes last. I think its just that u havent found the right woman for u. Dont worry urself or be in such a hurry u will find her in no time.
Be true to yourself and dont change who u are for anything. the person u will meet will want u just the way u are that is just what u have to understand.
All the best
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reader, smeedle +, writes (19 February 2006):
 Good morning GodofGraphics, well firstly let me say you are a rare but wonderful bloke and you must not loose this fantastic caring personality you have.
But and there is always a but you do need a girlfriend,
You need to look outside of your circle of friends for her and you need to be a boyfriend not an agony aunt.
Your mates may do better with the women but not in the long term, they will have shallow relationships based on sex and not on long term commitment, you I feel are the sort for a lasting relationship and not just a one night stand, stick with your morals and believe me you will find a nice girl who wants you for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2006): U sound like one great guy!! There should be more of you out there. I know the feeling of feeling like you're one of a kind when it comes to giving in this world. I believe in Karma and believe you must have a lot of it coming your way...good karma that is. I think you'll learn a lot from hearing other people's relationship problems and become a close to "perfect" man for someone. I'm sure there's a lady out there who would appreciate the kind of person you are and treat you with the upmost respect that you obviously deserve. As for these other jerk-offs u speak of i'll bet their relationships don't work out nearly as well as one with you would. And you can live in knowing that youre a good person not a lying cheatin scumbag like some other people out there. It makes it easier to live with yourself in the long run...its worth it!! All these girls you talk about seem to have a lot of baggage why would you bother with all that anyways? You sound a lot more intelligent than they are when it comes to life. Maybe u hang around the wrong kind of people like some sort of bulls#@t magnet. I get that a lot too! Be careful u dont get used by all these 'needy' people wont u? I for one am happy to hear there are other people like me on this, sometimes seemingly, god-forsaken planet!! It's hard to get the "helper" label off your forehead. But if its who you are i'm sure there will be someone who equally appreciates it. Good luck to you!!
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